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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 637683" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Gee Kathy, I am not a part of the SA family, but I am a part of gfgdom, I can't respond to the using and relapsing because that isn't within my experience, however, I can respond to your deep doubts and worry about whether you are doing the right thing with your daughter. Kathy, this is scary stuff. Whatever you decide to do is what you can live with, there isn't a definitive answer here. Having said that, our difficult child's are resilient, if your daughter is homeless and phoneless, she will find a way to get to you on someone else's phone if she is desperate enough. She is likely aware of shelters in the area. She likely has friends there too.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Therein lies the terrible gray area we live in,that in between place of so much doubt and so much fear. I know that place. Somewhere within you, there is a place which knows which way to go. I have found if I can step back out of the present circumstance, take a deep breath, wait a little while, perhaps talk to your husband..........that space allows us to come up with the appropriate response or lack of response. It's usually that initial fear response that has us not knowing what to do and getting stuck in that fear.</p><p></p><p>Often between the poles we usually reside in, help or don't help at all, there is a middle ground which only seems to surface when we are back in our center. </p><p></p><p>Or this time, it may be entirely appropriate and the right thing to do, for you to step back and allow whatever is next to happen on its own. </p><p></p><p>I feel for you Kathy. It's the most difficult place to be. I'm sorry. Pray for guidance. That's what I do when I am faced with the impossible. </p><p></p><p>Saying a prayer for you and your difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 637683, member: 13542"] Gee Kathy, I am not a part of the SA family, but I am a part of gfgdom, I can't respond to the using and relapsing because that isn't within my experience, however, I can respond to your deep doubts and worry about whether you are doing the right thing with your daughter. Kathy, this is scary stuff. Whatever you decide to do is what you can live with, there isn't a definitive answer here. Having said that, our difficult child's are resilient, if your daughter is homeless and phoneless, she will find a way to get to you on someone else's phone if she is desperate enough. She is likely aware of shelters in the area. She likely has friends there too. Therein lies the terrible gray area we live in,that in between place of so much doubt and so much fear. I know that place. Somewhere within you, there is a place which knows which way to go. I have found if I can step back out of the present circumstance, take a deep breath, wait a little while, perhaps talk to your husband..........that space allows us to come up with the appropriate response or lack of response. It's usually that initial fear response that has us not knowing what to do and getting stuck in that fear. Often between the poles we usually reside in, help or don't help at all, there is a middle ground which only seems to surface when we are back in our center. Or this time, it may be entirely appropriate and the right thing to do, for you to step back and allow whatever is next to happen on its own. I feel for you Kathy. It's the most difficult place to be. I'm sorry. Pray for guidance. That's what I do when I am faced with the impossible. Saying a prayer for you and your difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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