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I need strength to stop enabling and get my drug addicted son some help
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 535781" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Welcome ziggy and while I am so sorry you have to be here I'm glad you found us. Many of us have been where you are at and while we don't have a lot of answers we can share our experiences with you and give you lots of support.</p><p></p><p>I hear you when you say each time you kicked him out he got worse, but is he getting better in your home? Was he ever ordered into a treatment center through the courts as part of his many arrests? You are correct that an addict is the emotional age of when they began using drugs. Your son is not going to stop using by himself, he needs serious interventions. He either needs to hit bottom and decide that he hates his life more than he likes the drugs or he will die. </p><p></p><p>Do you have insurance that would cover a drug treatment program for your son? Many of us on this board have had to draw the line in the sand with our difficult child's and tell them they either go for treatment or move out. It is their choice. Therefore you are not kicking him out, he is making the choice to either get help or leave. I know that is terrifying and there is the real possibility that he will die, and you will have to make peace with that. In my situation I knew that my daughter was going to die without treatment so I had to take the chance. If you do not have insurance for treatment, there are sober houses he can go to that either charge nothing or slidign fee scale. He will get treatment and attend meetings and get help, if he wants it, to learn how to live sober.</p><p></p><p>It is not fair that your mental health and work performance ar ebeing affected. He is an adult and needs to get help for his addiction or leave. Have you ever attended a naranon meeting? You need to get some support for yourself, find other parents dealing with drug addiction so that you can get healthy and make the kind of changes needed for your son to change.</p><p></p><p>There are other members who will be along shortly to welcome you, you are not alone anymore.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 535781, member: 59"] Welcome ziggy and while I am so sorry you have to be here I'm glad you found us. Many of us have been where you are at and while we don't have a lot of answers we can share our experiences with you and give you lots of support. I hear you when you say each time you kicked him out he got worse, but is he getting better in your home? Was he ever ordered into a treatment center through the courts as part of his many arrests? You are correct that an addict is the emotional age of when they began using drugs. Your son is not going to stop using by himself, he needs serious interventions. He either needs to hit bottom and decide that he hates his life more than he likes the drugs or he will die. Do you have insurance that would cover a drug treatment program for your son? Many of us on this board have had to draw the line in the sand with our difficult child's and tell them they either go for treatment or move out. It is their choice. Therefore you are not kicking him out, he is making the choice to either get help or leave. I know that is terrifying and there is the real possibility that he will die, and you will have to make peace with that. In my situation I knew that my daughter was going to die without treatment so I had to take the chance. If you do not have insurance for treatment, there are sober houses he can go to that either charge nothing or slidign fee scale. He will get treatment and attend meetings and get help, if he wants it, to learn how to live sober. It is not fair that your mental health and work performance ar ebeing affected. He is an adult and needs to get help for his addiction or leave. Have you ever attended a naranon meeting? You need to get some support for yourself, find other parents dealing with drug addiction so that you can get healthy and make the kind of changes needed for your son to change. There are other members who will be along shortly to welcome you, you are not alone anymore. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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