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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 740229" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Copa I feel for you. I can imagine my son doing this kind of thing to me when he was depressed... I remember all so well when he was on the streets in the middle of winter in Denver. It was awful... and my son has been suicidal as well. It is scary. So I totally get your fear and your dilemmas in this.</p><p></p><p>Here is the thing... You have absolutely no control over his drug use.... and who knows if it is just pot. That is what he says but you don’t know. If you give him a place to live you dont want to be in a position of trying to determine if he is using drugs or not. It gets you too involved in his drug use or not, and sets up him to totally hide and lie to you. I have been there done that and you dont want to be in that position. So if you give him a place to live I think it has to be as SWOT says knowing he will use and letting it be. I dont recommend that option but I get it if you choose it.</p><p></p><p>Your posts about finding the place within yourself and finding your own life are right on. It is really hard to do right now given your worry and his latest texts but now more than ever it is time to work towards that.</p><p></p><p>It is times like these that I say the serenity prayer to myself over and over..... I am not a religious person but I do find the serenity prayer comforting and true. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. You can’t change him, you cant change his drug use.... it all comes back to all you can do is love him and love yourself.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 740229, member: 15801"] Copa I feel for you. I can imagine my son doing this kind of thing to me when he was depressed... I remember all so well when he was on the streets in the middle of winter in Denver. It was awful... and my son has been suicidal as well. It is scary. So I totally get your fear and your dilemmas in this. Here is the thing... You have absolutely no control over his drug use.... and who knows if it is just pot. That is what he says but you don’t know. If you give him a place to live you dont want to be in a position of trying to determine if he is using drugs or not. It gets you too involved in his drug use or not, and sets up him to totally hide and lie to you. I have been there done that and you dont want to be in that position. So if you give him a place to live I think it has to be as SWOT says knowing he will use and letting it be. I dont recommend that option but I get it if you choose it. Your posts about finding the place within yourself and finding your own life are right on. It is really hard to do right now given your worry and his latest texts but now more than ever it is time to work towards that. It is times like these that I say the serenity prayer to myself over and over..... I am not a religious person but I do find the serenity prayer comforting and true. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. You can’t change him, you cant change his drug use.... it all comes back to all you can do is love him and love yourself. TL [/QUOTE]
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