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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 85987" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Karen, you could be describing me.</p><p>I have been a confrontation avoider for as long as I can remember.</p><p></p><p>Strangely, it doesn't crop up at work...there I am able to assert myself and speak my mind, without feeling anxious about it. And it doesn't happen with my children, either.</p><p></p><p>It seems to crop up only in personal relationships. Boyfriends when I was younger, my ex-H, even my darling SO (although he knows I do this and will ask me, "Is that a 'Trinity nothing', or a 'nothing nothing'?" when I say nothing's wrong)</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what's at the root of it either, and it's something that I'm about to address with my therapist. If I gain any insights, I will let you know.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Don't be so hard on yourself, though. You have a lot on your plate right now, getting ready to move into your new place, thinking about your future, and everything else that's going on. It's no surprise that you don't want to add a big confrontation into the mix.</p><p></p><p>All the best,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 85987, member: 3907"] Karen, you could be describing me. I have been a confrontation avoider for as long as I can remember. Strangely, it doesn't crop up at work...there I am able to assert myself and speak my mind, without feeling anxious about it. And it doesn't happen with my children, either. It seems to crop up only in personal relationships. Boyfriends when I was younger, my ex-H, even my darling SO (although he knows I do this and will ask me, "Is that a 'Trinity nothing', or a 'nothing nothing'?" when I say nothing's wrong) I'm not sure what's at the root of it either, and it's something that I'm about to address with my therapist. If I gain any insights, I will let you know. Don't be so hard on yourself, though. You have a lot on your plate right now, getting ready to move into your new place, thinking about your future, and everything else that's going on. It's no surprise that you don't want to add a big confrontation into the mix. All the best, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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