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I need to learn to be more assertive
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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 85990" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I was this way in my first marriage. I was always worried about everyone elses feelings and didn't take care of my own.</p><p></p><p>I've learned to be upfront now. I finally figured out it was better for everyone if I just spoke up.</p><p></p><p>Now, if my husband hurts my feelings, he knows it. In the past, I would just start building a wall between me and whomever and not speak. My relationship with my ex just got worse. If I had troubles with friends, we eventually stopped wpeaking, because I just couldn't bring myself to talk about whatever bothered me.</p><p></p><p>Some of it was me protecting my pride. I didn't want to be vulnerable to anyone else. Some of it was me avoiding confrontation.</p><p></p><p>I have a very good relationship with my husband because I talk. I'm still working on getting him to speak up when he has a problem, but at least on my end, I'm open.</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself, be honest with him and then move forward. Continue to take care of yourself, you will be happy with your life again. (((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 85990, member: 3837"] I was this way in my first marriage. I was always worried about everyone elses feelings and didn't take care of my own. I've learned to be upfront now. I finally figured out it was better for everyone if I just spoke up. Now, if my husband hurts my feelings, he knows it. In the past, I would just start building a wall between me and whomever and not speak. My relationship with my ex just got worse. If I had troubles with friends, we eventually stopped wpeaking, because I just couldn't bring myself to talk about whatever bothered me. Some of it was me protecting my pride. I didn't want to be vulnerable to anyone else. Some of it was me avoiding confrontation. I have a very good relationship with my husband because I talk. I'm still working on getting him to speak up when he has a problem, but at least on my end, I'm open. Take care of yourself, be honest with him and then move forward. Continue to take care of yourself, you will be happy with your life again. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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