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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 86023" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Oh yeah, I am a BIG pleaser personality. I am not sure if anything happened to make me that way, or if it is just that when the people around me are happy, I am happy. It should not start with someone else though. I know that. But, I still do not practice it. </p><p></p><p>Tonight I have to tell boyfriend something he said to me was offensive. It happened a week ago. I always take some time before I talk about this type of thing. Sometimes I never say anything ever. </p><p></p><p>I also am not the type to build that wall though either. I let things roll probably too much. But, this one thing really got me thinking. And I have to mention it. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, you have every right to take your time and you should not feel worried about his feelings. He sure was not worried about yours feelings while he was out with some other woman as your mom was dying. Was he? </p><p>Just tell him to back off and give you space and time. You have not decided anything at this point and you are only working on Karen at the moment. </p><p>Done. </p><p></p><p>I know - easier said than done when you are a pleaser. </p><p></p><p>HUGS!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 86023, member: 391"] Oh yeah, I am a BIG pleaser personality. I am not sure if anything happened to make me that way, or if it is just that when the people around me are happy, I am happy. It should not start with someone else though. I know that. But, I still do not practice it. Tonight I have to tell boyfriend something he said to me was offensive. It happened a week ago. I always take some time before I talk about this type of thing. Sometimes I never say anything ever. I also am not the type to build that wall though either. I let things roll probably too much. But, this one thing really got me thinking. And I have to mention it. Anyway, you have every right to take your time and you should not feel worried about his feelings. He sure was not worried about yours feelings while he was out with some other woman as your mom was dying. Was he? Just tell him to back off and give you space and time. You have not decided anything at this point and you are only working on Karen at the moment. Done. I know - easier said than done when you are a pleaser. HUGS! [/QUOTE]
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