Having a fresh start in a new place may be a terrific step. I
hope, however, that your former husband is not allowed to be part of
your new life...even by way of shared stories. Get a machine
so you don't have to talk to him. Think of you and easy child. I think
if Jill was "uncomfortable" with his visit...it's time for her
to say she's no longer comfortable hearing about those issues.
Good luck! DDD