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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 540563" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Sounds to me like you need some Mommy down time each day. No joke. Stressed and exhausted does no one any good. </p><p></p><p>When my kids were young they had an early bedtime, and by early I don't mean 9pm, I mean 7pm......except in summer and that was about 8 pm. Kids do need a lot more sleep than most people know. But honestly? It was as much for ME as it was for them. From 7-8 pm on was my Mom down time. It gave me time to wind down from a hard day parenting difficult children.....to relax and enjoy myself for a while in peace and quiet, before going to bed and getting up the next morning to face it all again the next day.</p><p></p><p>If I felt myself getting too tense during the day......a walk, a long bath......would help. (depended on kids ages and if I was home with husband or not)</p><p></p><p>Mostly though? I counted. A LOT. I counted until the urge to yell was gone, or until the urge to say something I didn't want to say was gone and I could talk to them calmly. I wasn't perfect.......there were times I lost it, but 90 percent of the time my kids weren't yelled at. Now if my voice got very soft, very quiet and a certain tone...........they'd freeze in their tracks in fear. That's when they knew they'd gone too far. (when I'm livid, I get quiet and you can barely hear me talk because I'm working so hard to control my temper)</p><p></p><p>Lots and Lots of counting over the years. LOL </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 540563, member: 84"] Sounds to me like you need some Mommy down time each day. No joke. Stressed and exhausted does no one any good. When my kids were young they had an early bedtime, and by early I don't mean 9pm, I mean 7pm......except in summer and that was about 8 pm. Kids do need a lot more sleep than most people know. But honestly? It was as much for ME as it was for them. From 7-8 pm on was my Mom down time. It gave me time to wind down from a hard day parenting difficult children.....to relax and enjoy myself for a while in peace and quiet, before going to bed and getting up the next morning to face it all again the next day. If I felt myself getting too tense during the day......a walk, a long bath......would help. (depended on kids ages and if I was home with husband or not) Mostly though? I counted. A LOT. I counted until the urge to yell was gone, or until the urge to say something I didn't want to say was gone and I could talk to them calmly. I wasn't perfect.......there were times I lost it, but 90 percent of the time my kids weren't yelled at. Now if my voice got very soft, very quiet and a certain tone...........they'd freeze in their tracks in fear. That's when they knew they'd gone too far. (when I'm livid, I get quiet and you can barely hear me talk because I'm working so hard to control my temper) Lots and Lots of counting over the years. LOL Hugs [/QUOTE]
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