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I raised him right, right? Self blame and the pursuit of happiness.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nikimoto" data-source="post: 650905" data-attributes="member: 18791"><p>I am not keen on scared straight programs per se, I mean just a tour. And I most certainly do not agree with locking youth into cells with or without a trusted criminal companion. It sends the wrong message. For most kids I would imagine seeing people similar to themselves would offer a moment of reflection. And driving a yellow light doesn't put someone into the slammer on its own. You would have to have something else in your driving pattern before I pull you over. </p><p>Evan was as delusional as the next differently wired kid, and he was never wrong. This tour approach wouldn't reach my Evan or other kids like him, due to the arrogance and above the law attitude they develop over time. But it would show them that someone just like them can be wrong. That's what he can never do is admit fault. I would like to take him in there and show him the stats on who has such and such high I.Q. Points, who sat first chair Euphonium in band, and who else was highly intelligent and earned disgustingly terrible grades while disrespecting all their teachers and parents. It's more of an opportunity for reflection, but kids like Evan refuse to see themselves for who they really are in the first place. It's nothing more than a pipe dream for parents to find a way to pull our kids back to reality.</p><p>I have days where I just want my son back. The real boy I remember him to be, the son I love and raised in my life. He decided at some point to be who he is, and to walk or kick and scream away from my definition of love. Because arrogance and belligerence are mistaken for independence and self worth. Because he is wrong inside. But those are the dark moments where the questions hurt me a little, of what if and if only.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nikimoto, post: 650905, member: 18791"] I am not keen on scared straight programs per se, I mean just a tour. And I most certainly do not agree with locking youth into cells with or without a trusted criminal companion. It sends the wrong message. For most kids I would imagine seeing people similar to themselves would offer a moment of reflection. And driving a yellow light doesn't put someone into the slammer on its own. You would have to have something else in your driving pattern before I pull you over. Evan was as delusional as the next differently wired kid, and he was never wrong. This tour approach wouldn't reach my Evan or other kids like him, due to the arrogance and above the law attitude they develop over time. But it would show them that someone just like them can be wrong. That's what he can never do is admit fault. I would like to take him in there and show him the stats on who has such and such high I.Q. Points, who sat first chair Euphonium in band, and who else was highly intelligent and earned disgustingly terrible grades while disrespecting all their teachers and parents. It's more of an opportunity for reflection, but kids like Evan refuse to see themselves for who they really are in the first place. It's nothing more than a pipe dream for parents to find a way to pull our kids back to reality. I have days where I just want my son back. The real boy I remember him to be, the son I love and raised in my life. He decided at some point to be who he is, and to walk or kick and scream away from my definition of love. Because arrogance and belligerence are mistaken for independence and self worth. Because he is wrong inside. But those are the dark moments where the questions hurt me a little, of what if and if only. [/QUOTE]
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