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I raised him right, right? Self blame and the pursuit of happiness.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nikimoto" data-source="post: 650922" data-attributes="member: 18791"><p>I discussed with my husband how I suspected drug use, so it's complicated to be sure. Very complicated. I had some behavior calls beginning in K and 1st grade, but the teachers and I chalked it up to sleep apnea through discussions. Had his complete tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy at 6, which he of course slept better, was a lot less sick, and had no excuse from very early in life. Was well loved and spoilt, but would do strange and mean things. So there is a possibility he had a personality disorder which I swept under the rug in self blame as a single parent working too many hours at the time.</p><p>Even in the early years, he complained of his homework, wouldn't always do it, or do it correctly, and argue about non issues. There is also the fact that he not began to act like a drug user several years ago, but like you mention, the side acts of being horrible which led me to conduct room and bag searches. I never found paraphernalia, but always found something.</p><p>Whether it was some of our home electronics or food wrappers, I never left his room empty handed. And the stench, I think looking back that his proffered refusal to cooperate with the laundry program in our house was another coverup. Sometimes a strong smell came from his room, and he would of course seem really sick the next day.</p><p>Funny one time last year though, he was refusing to get up for school until breakfast was almost over, claiming to feel sick though we knew he had been up all night. I stood in his doorway and told him point blank that if he laid there and refused to get to school I would call him in for truancy. He gazed at my face in anger for a few moments, but I could it sink in until he realized I shat him not. Way hey up he rises! Good enough to sit at the table and shoot me sorrowful looks until he left without so much as fixing his lunch.</p><p>Might have worked out for him if he was closer to being the first born, but then again I truly doubt that, too. There were other times he acted like he had a hangover, and our kids just don't seem to realize that we the parents are not exactly naíve.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nikimoto, post: 650922, member: 18791"] I discussed with my husband how I suspected drug use, so it's complicated to be sure. Very complicated. I had some behavior calls beginning in K and 1st grade, but the teachers and I chalked it up to sleep apnea through discussions. Had his complete tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy at 6, which he of course slept better, was a lot less sick, and had no excuse from very early in life. Was well loved and spoilt, but would do strange and mean things. So there is a possibility he had a personality disorder which I swept under the rug in self blame as a single parent working too many hours at the time. Even in the early years, he complained of his homework, wouldn't always do it, or do it correctly, and argue about non issues. There is also the fact that he not began to act like a drug user several years ago, but like you mention, the side acts of being horrible which led me to conduct room and bag searches. I never found paraphernalia, but always found something. Whether it was some of our home electronics or food wrappers, I never left his room empty handed. And the stench, I think looking back that his proffered refusal to cooperate with the laundry program in our house was another coverup. Sometimes a strong smell came from his room, and he would of course seem really sick the next day. Funny one time last year though, he was refusing to get up for school until breakfast was almost over, claiming to feel sick though we knew he had been up all night. I stood in his doorway and told him point blank that if he laid there and refused to get to school I would call him in for truancy. He gazed at my face in anger for a few moments, but I could it sink in until he realized I shat him not. Way hey up he rises! Good enough to sit at the table and shoot me sorrowful looks until he left without so much as fixing his lunch. Might have worked out for him if he was closer to being the first born, but then again I truly doubt that, too. There were other times he acted like he had a hangover, and our kids just don't seem to realize that we the parents are not exactly naíve. [/QUOTE]
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