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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 535156" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That is quite catch 22 situation. Moving him constantly is not going to help him put down roots. Having ever changing relationships is not likely to teach him social skills. But if the current environment is not good, it would of course be better to take him out of it before any serious damage happens.</p><p></p><p>I have to say one thing: don't let the Waldorf education's idyllic picture sweep your feet under you. Be cautious on how the specific Waldorf school you are thinking of really is. And yes, listen also rumours carefully. I have to say I'm not at all a fan of anthroposophy and find their idea of personality types etc. very restricted. It just doesn't make any sense to me. And I was cautious of kids really learning (smart kids who are interested in learning tend to do really well, kids who are resistant to learn or have learning difficulties tend to do really poorly.) But at one time we were still considering moving our difficult child to Waldorf school anyway, because his schooling was such the struggle, not academically but socially and emotionally. Getting him to school, getting him to stay at school was nightmare at that point and he was bullied or excluded a lot. Waldorf school seemed so idyllic option at that time and we were almost ready to move him, when we found out that at least that specific Waldorf school was anything but immune to bullying problem. And it really didn't help that school didn't admit any problem and certainly didn't do anything to it. In the end few badly bullied kid were smoked out of the school, but I don't know how quickly the bullies found new victims, probably fast. It seemed to be very dysfunctional situation all together. That experience was of course only about this one specific school and others can be totally different. But just be careful, ask questions and don't believe on to the perfect idyll too easily. Just because they say, that they adhere all good and beautiful, doesn't mean they act that. </p><p></p><p>It could be a good fit for J, but be cautious and find out about that specific school you are thinking of.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 535156, member: 14557"] That is quite catch 22 situation. Moving him constantly is not going to help him put down roots. Having ever changing relationships is not likely to teach him social skills. But if the current environment is not good, it would of course be better to take him out of it before any serious damage happens. I have to say one thing: don't let the Waldorf education's idyllic picture sweep your feet under you. Be cautious on how the specific Waldorf school you are thinking of really is. And yes, listen also rumours carefully. I have to say I'm not at all a fan of anthroposophy and find their idea of personality types etc. very restricted. It just doesn't make any sense to me. And I was cautious of kids really learning (smart kids who are interested in learning tend to do really well, kids who are resistant to learn or have learning difficulties tend to do really poorly.) But at one time we were still considering moving our difficult child to Waldorf school anyway, because his schooling was such the struggle, not academically but socially and emotionally. Getting him to school, getting him to stay at school was nightmare at that point and he was bullied or excluded a lot. Waldorf school seemed so idyllic option at that time and we were almost ready to move him, when we found out that at least that specific Waldorf school was anything but immune to bullying problem. And it really didn't help that school didn't admit any problem and certainly didn't do anything to it. In the end few badly bullied kid were smoked out of the school, but I don't know how quickly the bullies found new victims, probably fast. It seemed to be very dysfunctional situation all together. That experience was of course only about this one specific school and others can be totally different. But just be careful, ask questions and don't believe on to the perfect idyll too easily. Just because they say, that they adhere all good and beautiful, doesn't mean they act that. It could be a good fit for J, but be cautious and find out about that specific school you are thinking of. [/QUOTE]
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