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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 535167" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>If I read your post correctly, your son has friends, but there is a group of older boys (with one boy in particular) who don't want to play with him. This isn't that unusual -- older boys (or girls) not wanting to play with a younger one is pretty common. Your son may want to play with a particular group, but if they don't want to play with him, they are not obligated to do so. This is hard for a child to accept, but it's a fact of life: You can't make people accept you into their group or as their friend. You say he does have friends, so it doesn't sound like we're talking about a lot of social exclusion -- it's one group. </p><p></p><p>The teacher is another story, but would he have this teacher next year? If your son is only 5, I don't know that I'd give up on traditional schools yet. Some teachers are quite good with the "different" child. Although I didn't explore Waldorf schools themselves, I did have difficult child at a regular private school and at a Montessori school. He basically got kicked out of both. Private schools don't have to deal with the more troublesome kids, and so they don't. Some may talk about a "whole child" approach, but are not necessarily capable of dealing with any emotional difficulties or have the time/resources to teach social skills to the kids who don't figure it out by osmosis. And even if you like the school when you interview them and visit them, there is never a guarantee that it's going to work out for your child. </p><p></p><p>Everyone has to figure out where they fit in. A lot of people don't figure it out until college. As long as your son has a few friends to hang out with, he's got the important bit while he figures out the rest.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 535167, member: 2960"] If I read your post correctly, your son has friends, but there is a group of older boys (with one boy in particular) who don't want to play with him. This isn't that unusual -- older boys (or girls) not wanting to play with a younger one is pretty common. Your son may want to play with a particular group, but if they don't want to play with him, they are not obligated to do so. This is hard for a child to accept, but it's a fact of life: You can't make people accept you into their group or as their friend. You say he does have friends, so it doesn't sound like we're talking about a lot of social exclusion -- it's one group. The teacher is another story, but would he have this teacher next year? If your son is only 5, I don't know that I'd give up on traditional schools yet. Some teachers are quite good with the "different" child. Although I didn't explore Waldorf schools themselves, I did have difficult child at a regular private school and at a Montessori school. He basically got kicked out of both. Private schools don't have to deal with the more troublesome kids, and so they don't. Some may talk about a "whole child" approach, but are not necessarily capable of dealing with any emotional difficulties or have the time/resources to teach social skills to the kids who don't figure it out by osmosis. And even if you like the school when you interview them and visit them, there is never a guarantee that it's going to work out for your child. Everyone has to figure out where they fit in. A lot of people don't figure it out until college. As long as your son has a few friends to hang out with, he's got the important bit while he figures out the rest. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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