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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 535169" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Malika, I see 2 things to consider in your decision: what would be ideal for J (theory of course, one never knows what will happen in reality. like you said: no crystal ball) AND your philosophy.</p><p>I believe you will have a hard time embrassing your local school because it is polar opposite of what you believe in. You have tolerated it because J seems to learn what is expected. But because it is so against your philosiphy, anything that goes wrong will really irritate you (for lack of better words).</p><p>I am NOT judging your reaction in any way. But I sense it is what is going on. Unless things are flawless (unlikely to happen), you will probably resent the school.</p><p>If J was to be in a school that fits your perspective on life, it might be easier to work as a team with the teachers. </p><p>But like you said, all that is very theoritical and we don't have a crystal ball!</p><p>For us with V, pulling him out of the old preschool was the best thing ever. I never liked them to begin with but was afraid of changing him and creating disruption in his life. The school never actively hurt V, but he was not understood. Change was the best in our case.</p><p>But let's be realistic: for V things have not become all rosy either. He still does not really know the other kid's names, and would rather play by himself. But because I'm confortable with the school, the staff and the philosophy, I'm more inclined to trust them and know that when things are tough for V it's because of V's lacking skills and NOT because of the school's lacking skills. Know what I mean??</p><p>I would also talk to J about it and ask his opinion. On big life decision, when I ask the kid's input, I always tell them that I will consider what they tell me but I and husband will make the final decision. It is the parent's burden/responsibility, not the kids and I want to make sure they understand it to avoid any future problems.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 535169, member: 11847"] Malika, I see 2 things to consider in your decision: what would be ideal for J (theory of course, one never knows what will happen in reality. like you said: no crystal ball) AND your philosophy. I believe you will have a hard time embrassing your local school because it is polar opposite of what you believe in. You have tolerated it because J seems to learn what is expected. But because it is so against your philosiphy, anything that goes wrong will really irritate you (for lack of better words). I am NOT judging your reaction in any way. But I sense it is what is going on. Unless things are flawless (unlikely to happen), you will probably resent the school. If J was to be in a school that fits your perspective on life, it might be easier to work as a team with the teachers. But like you said, all that is very theoritical and we don't have a crystal ball! For us with V, pulling him out of the old preschool was the best thing ever. I never liked them to begin with but was afraid of changing him and creating disruption in his life. The school never actively hurt V, but he was not understood. Change was the best in our case. But let's be realistic: for V things have not become all rosy either. He still does not really know the other kid's names, and would rather play by himself. But because I'm confortable with the school, the staff and the philosophy, I'm more inclined to trust them and know that when things are tough for V it's because of V's lacking skills and NOT because of the school's lacking skills. Know what I mean?? I would also talk to J about it and ask his opinion. On big life decision, when I ask the kid's input, I always tell them that I will consider what they tell me but I and husband will make the final decision. It is the parent's burden/responsibility, not the kids and I want to make sure they understand it to avoid any future problems. [/QUOTE]
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