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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 535302" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Lol, MWM, you certainly feel quite strongly about it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>I don't know, of course. But J is more involved in Morocco than just having been born there... He spent the first three years of his life there and we go back at least twice a year. His name is that of my ex-husband (important in Moroccan culture) and, really, his Moroccan family are the only family he has. He keeps wanting to speak Arabic (of which he knows a few words and phrases) and in his gestures and behaviour is in many ways very Moroccan. So... he may one day fully want to integrate that. Or not, as you say. But in any event, I don't think the French will ever be a "waste". </p><p>I think J is really telling me this school is not right for him. His talk over the past week or so has been very focused on how no-one likes him, everyone tells him off, everyone says he is naughty. He has started to say he doesn't want to go... a new phenomenon. I really don't trust the teacher, I realise. I feel she is a hypocrite. She has been punishing him and scolding him non-stop, despite giving me all this stuff about how she admires J and wants him to thrive, etc. I think she is basically concerned to cover her own... you know. When I picked him up from school on Friday he was hysterical, literally hysterical, about having been scolded and punished all day. She doesn't accept there's anything issue going on with him, thinks her methods are going to work, thinks he's lacking in discipline or authority or I don't know what. There is a new teacher in the autumn but I fear his reputation has been now cast and set. </p><p>Of course I say all this and really I would find it much easier to stay in many ways. But... I look at J, who is indeed very wilful and difficult and pushes every button going often, and see his energy and spirit and know that really only the "alternatives" are going to value and nurture any of that. Same time, you're right, aeroeng about things following us wherever we go... But J tells me his teacher just says "It's nothing, it doesn't matter" if he says the bigger boy kicked him, which I can well imagine her saying. </p><p>I feel I have to do some work on this, have to go visit the Waldorf school, have a serious think about this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 535302, member: 11227"] Lol, MWM, you certainly feel quite strongly about it :) I don't know, of course. But J is more involved in Morocco than just having been born there... He spent the first three years of his life there and we go back at least twice a year. His name is that of my ex-husband (important in Moroccan culture) and, really, his Moroccan family are the only family he has. He keeps wanting to speak Arabic (of which he knows a few words and phrases) and in his gestures and behaviour is in many ways very Moroccan. So... he may one day fully want to integrate that. Or not, as you say. But in any event, I don't think the French will ever be a "waste". I think J is really telling me this school is not right for him. His talk over the past week or so has been very focused on how no-one likes him, everyone tells him off, everyone says he is naughty. He has started to say he doesn't want to go... a new phenomenon. I really don't trust the teacher, I realise. I feel she is a hypocrite. She has been punishing him and scolding him non-stop, despite giving me all this stuff about how she admires J and wants him to thrive, etc. I think she is basically concerned to cover her own... you know. When I picked him up from school on Friday he was hysterical, literally hysterical, about having been scolded and punished all day. She doesn't accept there's anything issue going on with him, thinks her methods are going to work, thinks he's lacking in discipline or authority or I don't know what. There is a new teacher in the autumn but I fear his reputation has been now cast and set. Of course I say all this and really I would find it much easier to stay in many ways. But... I look at J, who is indeed very wilful and difficult and pushes every button going often, and see his energy and spirit and know that really only the "alternatives" are going to value and nurture any of that. Same time, you're right, aeroeng about things following us wherever we go... But J tells me his teacher just says "It's nothing, it doesn't matter" if he says the bigger boy kicked him, which I can well imagine her saying. I feel I have to do some work on this, have to go visit the Waldorf school, have a serious think about this. [/QUOTE]
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