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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 132422" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Wow. I'm glad I read all the notes and saw that she responded in email. That's a plus. I would stay out of it now ... let her digest and process the communication and overture in her own way. My Bi polar friend often watches TV and writes computer gobbledegook or plays video games or sleeps when he's depressed, and it fills the void with-o having to make contact with-actual human beings. It is very, very hard not to take it personally but at least he always comes around after a while and makes up for it. (He mailed letters for me today, added a larger power source to my computer, and finished a TV stand in the LR that we started last summer. But it really has to be done on HIS schedule, because I never know when he'll be "up.")</p><p>It is NOT YOU. That is your new mantra. It's not about you ... it's about her. Please find a way to distract yourself and go on with-your life. This is all the further she's going to let you in at this point.</p><p>If she's depressed she needs therapy, medications and exercise. Love alone cannot cure her depression. (Believe me, all of us on this BB have kids or spouses we'd love to cure that way!)</p><p>It's so hard. Please accept our cyberhugs and know that you are a good person.</p><p>I agree with-Beth that the next time you save up an extra $100, spend it on yourself. You deserve it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 132422, member: 3419"] Wow. I'm glad I read all the notes and saw that she responded in email. That's a plus. I would stay out of it now ... let her digest and process the communication and overture in her own way. My Bi polar friend often watches TV and writes computer gobbledegook or plays video games or sleeps when he's depressed, and it fills the void with-o having to make contact with-actual human beings. It is very, very hard not to take it personally but at least he always comes around after a while and makes up for it. (He mailed letters for me today, added a larger power source to my computer, and finished a TV stand in the LR that we started last summer. But it really has to be done on HIS schedule, because I never know when he'll be "up.") It is NOT YOU. That is your new mantra. It's not about you ... it's about her. Please find a way to distract yourself and go on with-your life. This is all the further she's going to let you in at this point. If she's depressed she needs therapy, medications and exercise. Love alone cannot cure her depression. (Believe me, all of us on this BB have kids or spouses we'd love to cure that way!) It's so hard. Please accept our cyberhugs and know that you are a good person. I agree with-Beth that the next time you save up an extra $100, spend it on yourself. You deserve it! [/QUOTE]
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