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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 525635" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Many many many hugs!!! THis truly is a normal thing and we ALL lose it from time to time. I spent YEARS where there was NO calming Wiz until one of us lost it. He would just keep escalating until either husband or I lost it and yelled/screamed/totally lost it. NO matter what, if we stayed calm and did not give that big reaction he just kept escalating. There were times when we called 911 for help rather than losing it and even a cop didn't put a stop to it. We still managed to stop reacting that way after a few years, but it took him 2 months of nonstop solid escalations where we only got very small breaks in the escalation by having the cops came. This is why I could not work even part time - it took 2 of us to handle things by evening and NO therapy worked. The year we stopped givng him big reactions that he wanted was absolute hades - husband even talked seriously about having an exorcism done on him. He eventually ended up in the psychiatric hospital for the 4 mo stay and they finally got his level of escalation down. </p><p></p><p>Please stop beating yourself up for this. You won't cause the deep depression - some of this is natural consequences and what our kids learn from. Doesn't make it easier on you, but it is what it is. </p><p></p><p>I hope someday he 'gets' that his actions cause the reactions, but it may take a while, depending on how old he is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 525635, member: 1233"] Many many many hugs!!! THis truly is a normal thing and we ALL lose it from time to time. I spent YEARS where there was NO calming Wiz until one of us lost it. He would just keep escalating until either husband or I lost it and yelled/screamed/totally lost it. NO matter what, if we stayed calm and did not give that big reaction he just kept escalating. There were times when we called 911 for help rather than losing it and even a cop didn't put a stop to it. We still managed to stop reacting that way after a few years, but it took him 2 months of nonstop solid escalations where we only got very small breaks in the escalation by having the cops came. This is why I could not work even part time - it took 2 of us to handle things by evening and NO therapy worked. The year we stopped givng him big reactions that he wanted was absolute hades - husband even talked seriously about having an exorcism done on him. He eventually ended up in the psychiatric hospital for the 4 mo stay and they finally got his level of escalation down. Please stop beating yourself up for this. You won't cause the deep depression - some of this is natural consequences and what our kids learn from. Doesn't make it easier on you, but it is what it is. I hope someday he 'gets' that his actions cause the reactions, but it may take a while, depending on how old he is. [/QUOTE]
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