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I think H has flipped his lid
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 82412" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Count me in on the side of not listening to what he's saying, to your bff Jill, or to anyone else.</p><p></p><p>But...you need to focus on you right now. What you want, what you need, what you plan for your future. Paying too much attention to what your H is up to right now will not help you figure these things out.</p><p></p><p>You already know that he's lied to you, and chances are good that he'll do so again. So hearing the play-by-play all the time just keeps you chained together.</p><p></p><p>I also think that if your H quits therapy, then it says a lot about his commitment (or lack thereof) to heal the rift between you. If you are still open to reconciling with him, then he has to do the work to right the wrongs he's done. If you're not, then the sooner you cut him loose completely, the better off you are.</p><p></p><p>My ex-H did this when we were in therapy. He didn't like what the therapist said, so he quit after 2 or 3 sessions. After that, I kept going to marriage counselling (or rather, divorce preparation) on my own, which gave me the strength to get it done.</p><p></p><p>You've spent a long long time taking care of other people's needs. It's time to take care of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 82412, member: 3907"] Count me in on the side of not listening to what he's saying, to your bff Jill, or to anyone else. But...you need to focus on you right now. What you want, what you need, what you plan for your future. Paying too much attention to what your H is up to right now will not help you figure these things out. You already know that he's lied to you, and chances are good that he'll do so again. So hearing the play-by-play all the time just keeps you chained together. I also think that if your H quits therapy, then it says a lot about his commitment (or lack thereof) to heal the rift between you. If you are still open to reconciling with him, then he has to do the work to right the wrongs he's done. If you're not, then the sooner you cut him loose completely, the better off you are. My ex-H did this when we were in therapy. He didn't like what the therapist said, so he quit after 2 or 3 sessions. After that, I kept going to marriage counselling (or rather, divorce preparation) on my own, which gave me the strength to get it done. You've spent a long long time taking care of other people's needs. It's time to take care of you. [/QUOTE]
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