Suz, this is what I thought would be best, but I'm just so unsure of myself these days.
Part of me feels that he should KNOW how much his actions hurt all of us--basically, he's choosing to be oppositional which is costing him visits and may very well extend his time in the program.
But, the other part of me, the one that agrees with you, wants his actions NOT to so intensely affect me personally and wants him to know that.
For some reason, I'm equating NOT being affected by what I feel is his betrayal to not loving him and I'm afraid he'll do the same.
