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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 336568" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I am very excited for you. Sometimes those steps forward are such a relief.</p><p> </p><p>I don't want to minimize your event by any means but would like to give you just a couple heads up warnings. I know I get swept away by the happy feelings when they grace our home and forget that sometimes glitches pop up.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child was excited about starting high school and having a "fresh start" so I can see where your difficult child gets his enthusiasm and optimism from. Maybe losing the 1:1 helps him feel as if he will fit in.</p><p> </p><p>High school is a fun and nerve wracking transition for any kid. Maybe the social pressure will encourage him to keep finding his safe place rather than act out so that is a great thing.</p><p> </p><p>High school also amps up the expectations as far as academics. My difficult child was waiting alllll summer with baited breath for high school. For the first few weeks he was doing great. Then it became the same old school routine, wasn't so darned fun anymore and his behavior slowly slipped. His progress is two steps forward and one step back but we are still moving along.</p><p> </p><p>Please just mentally prepare yourself for the one step back part if it happens so you aren't discouraged and so you don't lose hope. I think the residual oopsie behaviors as our difficult child's improve is a part of the process. Old habits die hard but the will fade eventually.</p><p> </p><p>Hormones are starting to flare in this group, they want responsibility but aren't quite mature. It's a complicated time in a young persons life and it can get overwhelming. </p><p> </p><p>Is there any way the 1:1 contact can just do a walk by and wave or pop in to say hi without it appearing obvious or emberrasing for your difficult child? Kind of like when you take a youngster to the park. They run off and ignore you but the whole time they keep looking back to make sure you are there. Then they feel safe and keep playing and ignoring you. Maybe being able to "look back" and see his 1:1 at a safe distance (for difficult child socially) will help ease the transition. Sometimes knowing someone is there in an unimposing way eases anxiety. That way is difficult child needs more 1:1 eventually it won't feel like a failure to difficult child. It can just be a "checking in" kind of chat. Sort of a safety net without actual 1:1 in a strucured setting. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, don't want to be a kill joy. It really is fabulous news. You deserve it. I am sure you put in a lot of work and tears to get this far. Congrats to difficult child and especially you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 336568, member: 8617"] I am very excited for you. Sometimes those steps forward are such a relief. I don't want to minimize your event by any means but would like to give you just a couple heads up warnings. I know I get swept away by the happy feelings when they grace our home and forget that sometimes glitches pop up. My difficult child was excited about starting high school and having a "fresh start" so I can see where your difficult child gets his enthusiasm and optimism from. Maybe losing the 1:1 helps him feel as if he will fit in. High school is a fun and nerve wracking transition for any kid. Maybe the social pressure will encourage him to keep finding his safe place rather than act out so that is a great thing. High school also amps up the expectations as far as academics. My difficult child was waiting alllll summer with baited breath for high school. For the first few weeks he was doing great. Then it became the same old school routine, wasn't so darned fun anymore and his behavior slowly slipped. His progress is two steps forward and one step back but we are still moving along. Please just mentally prepare yourself for the one step back part if it happens so you aren't discouraged and so you don't lose hope. I think the residual oopsie behaviors as our difficult child's improve is a part of the process. Old habits die hard but the will fade eventually. Hormones are starting to flare in this group, they want responsibility but aren't quite mature. It's a complicated time in a young persons life and it can get overwhelming. Is there any way the 1:1 contact can just do a walk by and wave or pop in to say hi without it appearing obvious or emberrasing for your difficult child? Kind of like when you take a youngster to the park. They run off and ignore you but the whole time they keep looking back to make sure you are there. Then they feel safe and keep playing and ignoring you. Maybe being able to "look back" and see his 1:1 at a safe distance (for difficult child socially) will help ease the transition. Sometimes knowing someone is there in an unimposing way eases anxiety. That way is difficult child needs more 1:1 eventually it won't feel like a failure to difficult child. It can just be a "checking in" kind of chat. Sort of a safety net without actual 1:1 in a strucured setting. Anyway, don't want to be a kill joy. It really is fabulous news. You deserve it. I am sure you put in a lot of work and tears to get this far. Congrats to difficult child and especially you! [/QUOTE]
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