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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 166679" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Suz, I was so tired when I read this thread last night, but in my head I was saying, "Yes! It's so true!"</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Despite all the BS with difficult child lately and our reactions to it, I have to pat myself a little bit here in having the strength to sit back once in a while and remember what I was like at her age. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">At 18, whew, it was nuts. I was doing things and hanging out with people that I would never want to admit to either of my girls! BUT, the only difference is that I always worked. And I think that if difficult child at least worked and had her own money, about half my frustrations would go out the window. In fact, I do believe that since I was working full time at almost 19, my parents felt very comfortable moving 3000 miles away (I wonder why they felt the need to get so far away from thier 5 adult kids! LOL). </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Every so often, either H, exh or I will simply state, "Well, she is only 18". And difficult child is in many ways an immature 18 year old. She is just so mature in what she wants but immature in how to get there. We have to remind ourselves, especially me, that I was already 18.5 when I graduated HS. difficult child was 17.5...all her classmates were at least 6 months-1 year older than her and at that age, it does make a difference. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">Like I said though, believe it or not, I can cut her a very little bit of slack for hanging out with some losers, smoking pot occasionally, and for attending the occasional kegger, but I can't cut her slack for being lazy and disrespectful. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">One time my mother was yelling at me and I was about to say the "F-U" phrase and as the 'F' sound rested on my lips, out of nowhere, my dad appeared and pinned me to the wall with his fist in the air and said, "Don't you dare". I think I had to change my panties that day. My dad spanked me twice in my whole life. And he almost never became involved in arguments between my sisters and me with my mom - but there was a line you just didn't cross and these days, well, it's just doesn't seem to be the same.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: purple">So, yeah, we take into consideration her age and maturity level most of the time, in most of the cases. It's good to be reminded!<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/whiteflag.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":whiteflag:" title="whiteflag :whiteflag:" data-shortname=":whiteflag:" /></span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 166679, member: 2211"] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Suz, I was so tired when I read this thread last night, but in my head I was saying, "Yes! It's so true!"[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Despite all the BS with difficult child lately and our reactions to it, I have to pat myself a little bit here in having the strength to sit back once in a while and remember what I was like at her age. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]At 18, whew, it was nuts. I was doing things and hanging out with people that I would never want to admit to either of my girls! BUT, the only difference is that I always worked. And I think that if difficult child at least worked and had her own money, about half my frustrations would go out the window. In fact, I do believe that since I was working full time at almost 19, my parents felt very comfortable moving 3000 miles away (I wonder why they felt the need to get so far away from thier 5 adult kids! LOL). [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Every so often, either H, exh or I will simply state, "Well, she is only 18". And difficult child is in many ways an immature 18 year old. She is just so mature in what she wants but immature in how to get there. We have to remind ourselves, especially me, that I was already 18.5 when I graduated HS. difficult child was 17.5...all her classmates were at least 6 months-1 year older than her and at that age, it does make a difference. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]Like I said though, believe it or not, I can cut her a very little bit of slack for hanging out with some losers, smoking pot occasionally, and for attending the occasional kegger, but I can't cut her slack for being lazy and disrespectful. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]One time my mother was yelling at me and I was about to say the "F-U" phrase and as the 'F' sound rested on my lips, out of nowhere, my dad appeared and pinned me to the wall with his fist in the air and said, "Don't you dare". I think I had to change my panties that day. My dad spanked me twice in my whole life. And he almost never became involved in arguments between my sisters and me with my mom - but there was a line you just didn't cross and these days, well, it's just doesn't seem to be the same.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=purple]So, yeah, we take into consideration her age and maturity level most of the time, in most of the cases. It's good to be reminded!:whiteflag:[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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