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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 513669" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Star--yes, I believe that as well, that we all make a difference in everyone's life. And, yes, the world would be a different place if everyone knew that. I'm happy that my words helped with you and your son, thank you for telling me, it's always good to know one can help another. </p><p></p><p>The other night in my therapy group we were talking about the ripple effect, how those of us who are healing from our various issues share our new found health and information around that health with others. And, then those folks share their health with others, and on it goes, one person at a time. That's how much power we each have to effect change. Look what Mother Teresa or Gandhi did, each making extraordinary differences in the lives of so many. Just one person, it's remarkable.</p><p></p><p>Star, perhaps you and others already understand this, however, something shifted today with my difficult child and I, we landed in a new place together. I just this moment remembered the serenity prayer and it talking about understanding the difference between things you can control and things you cannot control. I think I unknowingly slipped into some serenity today because I am more aware of the difference now. </p><p></p><p>My girl is packing her stuff, in between wandering around looking busy but without actually getting anything done. I am sort of directing her actions so she stays on task. She has found a place to stay <u>WITH</u> the cats. Amazing. She is leaving sometime soon, car, cats and herself. She is creating pockets of chaos with each move she makes. The difference is, I am completely ok. Helping when I can, letting go when I can't. </p><p></p><p>I tell you, no one is more surprised then I!!! It reminds me of being in therapy when you work for years on one of your issues and then one day the issue is over, gone, you no longer deal with it, and it occurred to you in that moment that it's all ok, no marching band announced your new found health, it snuck in unexpectantly one day when you weren't looking. </p><p></p><p>So, here I am, difficult child getting ready to go. I feel good. I did what I could. I let the rest go. Yikes. She has her path, I have mine and we can only intersect at certain times in certain ways. I know that now. She's my daughter, my only child, once a happy, healthy little girl, slowly taken over by a mental illness she inherited from my father's side of the family, Not her fault. But, she now makes all her own choices about how she wants to live her life, I have no vote in that. She will find her way in her own world, a world I can't gain entry to because the cost of admission, is your sanity. Sigh. </p><p></p><p>difficult child is aware that we will be out of town. She believes someone is staying here while we're gone so she cannot come over. I think our home is safe. She will actually be in the next town, 30 minutes away. I believe she will be safe, but I am not sure of that. I have done what I can do. This chapter is now over.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 513669, member: 13542"] Star--yes, I believe that as well, that we all make a difference in everyone's life. And, yes, the world would be a different place if everyone knew that. I'm happy that my words helped with you and your son, thank you for telling me, it's always good to know one can help another. The other night in my therapy group we were talking about the ripple effect, how those of us who are healing from our various issues share our new found health and information around that health with others. And, then those folks share their health with others, and on it goes, one person at a time. That's how much power we each have to effect change. Look what Mother Teresa or Gandhi did, each making extraordinary differences in the lives of so many. Just one person, it's remarkable. Star, perhaps you and others already understand this, however, something shifted today with my difficult child and I, we landed in a new place together. I just this moment remembered the serenity prayer and it talking about understanding the difference between things you can control and things you cannot control. I think I unknowingly slipped into some serenity today because I am more aware of the difference now. My girl is packing her stuff, in between wandering around looking busy but without actually getting anything done. I am sort of directing her actions so she stays on task. She has found a place to stay [U]WITH[/U] the cats. Amazing. She is leaving sometime soon, car, cats and herself. She is creating pockets of chaos with each move she makes. The difference is, I am completely ok. Helping when I can, letting go when I can't. I tell you, no one is more surprised then I!!! It reminds me of being in therapy when you work for years on one of your issues and then one day the issue is over, gone, you no longer deal with it, and it occurred to you in that moment that it's all ok, no marching band announced your new found health, it snuck in unexpectantly one day when you weren't looking. So, here I am, difficult child getting ready to go. I feel good. I did what I could. I let the rest go. Yikes. She has her path, I have mine and we can only intersect at certain times in certain ways. I know that now. She's my daughter, my only child, once a happy, healthy little girl, slowly taken over by a mental illness she inherited from my father's side of the family, Not her fault. But, she now makes all her own choices about how she wants to live her life, I have no vote in that. She will find her way in her own world, a world I can't gain entry to because the cost of admission, is your sanity. Sigh. difficult child is aware that we will be out of town. She believes someone is staying here while we're gone so she cannot come over. I think our home is safe. She will actually be in the next town, 30 minutes away. I believe she will be safe, but I am not sure of that. I have done what I can do. This chapter is now over. [/QUOTE]
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