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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 501026" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I've not walked in your shoes - ours aren't that old yet (HS age).</p><p>But, two things in your post caught my attention... </p><p>1) 10+ years of trying, and</p><p>2) the mommy-guilt. </p><p></p><p>It took us 10+ years too... in our case, we're fortunate, because we are finding answers, but this is an example of why you need to ditch the mommy-guilt... WE found out that the reason there was no help for our difficult child was that the tests he needed - the tests that actually reveal the extent of his primary disability - didn't even exist 10 years ago... weren't even available around here 2 or 3 years ago. Its only NOW that many of the issues, challenges, and problems "our" kids have are "hitting the radar" of various medical, school and mental health professionals. And there remain other challenges untouched as yet.</p><p></p><p>In other words... maybe there is "something else" that could have been found - but it's highly likely that "it" wasn't being looked for back when you needed it. NOT YOUR FAULT. I've had to accept that, for our difficult child, too. We did EVERYTHING. 10+ years straight. But... we started a few years behind you, and the windows of help are just starting to open up. I'm watching people come to this board with kids at 4 and 6 and 9... and the help we needed back then, is starting to be available for these families. STARTING.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 501026, member: 11791"] I've not walked in your shoes - ours aren't that old yet (HS age). But, two things in your post caught my attention... 1) 10+ years of trying, and 2) the mommy-guilt. It took us 10+ years too... in our case, we're fortunate, because we are finding answers, but this is an example of why you need to ditch the mommy-guilt... WE found out that the reason there was no help for our difficult child was that the tests he needed - the tests that actually reveal the extent of his primary disability - didn't even exist 10 years ago... weren't even available around here 2 or 3 years ago. Its only NOW that many of the issues, challenges, and problems "our" kids have are "hitting the radar" of various medical, school and mental health professionals. And there remain other challenges untouched as yet. In other words... maybe there is "something else" that could have been found - but it's highly likely that "it" wasn't being looked for back when you needed it. NOT YOUR FAULT. I've had to accept that, for our difficult child, too. We did EVERYTHING. 10+ years straight. But... we started a few years behind you, and the windows of help are just starting to open up. I'm watching people come to this board with kids at 4 and 6 and 9... and the help we needed back then, is starting to be available for these families. STARTING. [/QUOTE]
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