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<blockquote data-quote="Indianamomof4" data-source="post: 89844" data-attributes="member: 4062"><p>Does he know what is an acceptable way to speak to you? Does he know that it is not acceptable to be rude, angry, obnoxious and abusive? If so, then you need to not respond to him until he speaks to you in a non-abusive way.</p><p></p><p>I've had to talk to my 10 yr old easy child about this. Granted, he doesn't have any big issues, but the rules don't change if he did. I don't respond to him when he speaks rudely or abusively to me. I tell him, "I will respond to you when you speak to me appropriately". If he continues, I will tell him, "You've just lost your priviledges for the evening. Go to your room and take a break. When you're ready to talk about it, come and find me and we'll talk about it." My sons lose everything (tv, games, computer) until we talk it through. I decide by the conversation if they get them back, or lose one or them all for a certain amount of time.</p><p></p><p>When kids are freaked out for whatever reason, they don't think clearly and giving them the break to think it through and come to you helps them be accountable. I'm speaking from experience with James Lehman's program I'm using now and I can tell you it does work.</p><p></p><p>When he does talk to you about it, make sure you reinforce that regardless of what was wrong at that time to cause him to be so mean and rude, the rule is that he is to not direspect you or abuse you. He needs to learn what to do instead if he's feeling upset because it's just not fair to you to take it all the darn time. I got fed up myself and it's a heck of a lot easier right now. :laugh:</p><p></p><p>Just my advice, I know you weren't asking... :wink:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Indianamomof4, post: 89844, member: 4062"] Does he know what is an acceptable way to speak to you? Does he know that it is not acceptable to be rude, angry, obnoxious and abusive? If so, then you need to not respond to him until he speaks to you in a non-abusive way. I've had to talk to my 10 yr old easy child about this. Granted, he doesn't have any big issues, but the rules don't change if he did. I don't respond to him when he speaks rudely or abusively to me. I tell him, "I will respond to you when you speak to me appropriately". If he continues, I will tell him, "You've just lost your priviledges for the evening. Go to your room and take a break. When you're ready to talk about it, come and find me and we'll talk about it." My sons lose everything (tv, games, computer) until we talk it through. I decide by the conversation if they get them back, or lose one or them all for a certain amount of time. When kids are freaked out for whatever reason, they don't think clearly and giving them the break to think it through and come to you helps them be accountable. I'm speaking from experience with James Lehman's program I'm using now and I can tell you it does work. When he does talk to you about it, make sure you reinforce that regardless of what was wrong at that time to cause him to be so mean and rude, the rule is that he is to not direspect you or abuse you. He needs to learn what to do instead if he's feeling upset because it's just not fair to you to take it all the darn time. I got fed up myself and it's a heck of a lot easier right now. [img]:laugh:[/img] Just my advice, I know you weren't asking... [img]:wink:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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