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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 598494" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Pasa - I hope your difficult child does well when he gets out. </p><p></p><p>Witz - Trinity is right. I live in Ontario as well and I don't believe I am liable to support difficult child as he is choosing to live on his own. I did kick him out but I also told him that if he was willing to follow some rules he could come back - he's not and doesn't want to come back. I am going to check with a lawyer this week just to be sure though. I don't want to be caught by surprise if difficult child is cooking something up with his friends mother. I'm wondering if she is planning on getting some kind of guardianship and then suing me for child support. Maybe - could just be me being paranoid but I don't trust difficult child at all anymore. And in the last 8 months he's lived with this woman for 5 of them and not once has she made any contact with us. I have no phone number for her or anything.</p><p></p><p>Barbara - I am going to use your idea about the candle and I'm going to put one of those electric candles in difficult child's bedroom window. </p><p></p><p>husband and I have been pretty good so far about not talking too much about difficult child in front of her. Of course he has been the focus quite often but less and less so since he's moved out. When he lived here it was impossible for normalcy because difficult child made it impossible. Now it's much better and peaceful in our home. We go out with easy child, have movie nights, let her know we love her and are so proud of her, go for bike rides, lots of stuff like that. We used to do all this stuff as a family with difficult child too but now we just continue it with the 3 of us. Thank you for the reminder about how important it is to keep it up. I am so sorry for what happened with your son and for how quickly it happened. I will be sure to keep a close eye on easy child, especially next year when she starts high school and, unfortunately, is at the same school as difficult child (if he shows up).</p><p></p><p>Hound - You are absolutely right. I should shut his phone off and I've been thinking about it for a while. I know that logically he would find a way to call me if he wanted to talk to me but cutting off his phone is like severing that last tie and I'm not sure I'm there yet. I was talking to husband about it last night and we thought we might leave the phone on for the next 3 months and see if he makes any effort to call. If not, I might just shut it off. In the meantime I'm going to look at whether or not I can set it up so he can only call me - not sure if I can do that with this provider. </p><p></p><p>RE - You are always so kind and supportive. Thank you for your thoughts - they are like a comforting hug. </p><p></p><p>Funnybunny (difficult child) has been contacting easy child on facebook. She hasn't really responded because she can't be bothered with him and his nonsense. He messaged her again today and tells her how much he loves her and wants a relationship with her and that she's his only sister. Huh. I'm his only mother but that doesn't seem to matter to him. It seems the more distance he puts between husband, myself and him the more he tries to mend his relationship with his sister. </p><p></p><p>*Part of me wonders if he is being manipulative and trying to turn easy child against husband and I.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 598494, member: 14356"] Pasa - I hope your difficult child does well when he gets out. Witz - Trinity is right. I live in Ontario as well and I don't believe I am liable to support difficult child as he is choosing to live on his own. I did kick him out but I also told him that if he was willing to follow some rules he could come back - he's not and doesn't want to come back. I am going to check with a lawyer this week just to be sure though. I don't want to be caught by surprise if difficult child is cooking something up with his friends mother. I'm wondering if she is planning on getting some kind of guardianship and then suing me for child support. Maybe - could just be me being paranoid but I don't trust difficult child at all anymore. And in the last 8 months he's lived with this woman for 5 of them and not once has she made any contact with us. I have no phone number for her or anything. Barbara - I am going to use your idea about the candle and I'm going to put one of those electric candles in difficult child's bedroom window. husband and I have been pretty good so far about not talking too much about difficult child in front of her. Of course he has been the focus quite often but less and less so since he's moved out. When he lived here it was impossible for normalcy because difficult child made it impossible. Now it's much better and peaceful in our home. We go out with easy child, have movie nights, let her know we love her and are so proud of her, go for bike rides, lots of stuff like that. We used to do all this stuff as a family with difficult child too but now we just continue it with the 3 of us. Thank you for the reminder about how important it is to keep it up. I am so sorry for what happened with your son and for how quickly it happened. I will be sure to keep a close eye on easy child, especially next year when she starts high school and, unfortunately, is at the same school as difficult child (if he shows up). Hound - You are absolutely right. I should shut his phone off and I've been thinking about it for a while. I know that logically he would find a way to call me if he wanted to talk to me but cutting off his phone is like severing that last tie and I'm not sure I'm there yet. I was talking to husband about it last night and we thought we might leave the phone on for the next 3 months and see if he makes any effort to call. If not, I might just shut it off. In the meantime I'm going to look at whether or not I can set it up so he can only call me - not sure if I can do that with this provider. RE - You are always so kind and supportive. Thank you for your thoughts - they are like a comforting hug. Funnybunny (difficult child) has been contacting easy child on facebook. She hasn't really responded because she can't be bothered with him and his nonsense. He messaged her again today and tells her how much he loves her and wants a relationship with her and that she's his only sister. Huh. I'm his only mother but that doesn't seem to matter to him. It seems the more distance he puts between husband, myself and him the more he tries to mend his relationship with his sister. *Part of me wonders if he is being manipulative and trying to turn easy child against husband and I. [/QUOTE]
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