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I was full of dookie, back to "fun" times at my house, again...
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 333805" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Anyway to finish ----</p><p></p><p>What I'm trying to get at is this.....</p><p></p><p>What seems very un normal and horrible, and weird and just beyond words to you? WE understand. So in that respect you are not alone. For that much? Is some comfort. Being alone and misunderstood is an awful place to be. Years and years ago maybe it was the 'norm' to look at a kid like ours and jerk him out of class or leave him in class and put him in the refrigerator box at the back of the class, or wonder if it was the "parents" fault for him being like he is. Or have that stigma as a parent to worry, grieve and be embarrassed that EVERYONE will think "It's me, I'm a lousy Mom." Well, it's not. It's a disorder. You didn't do it. You didn't make him this way - he just is. You didn't make him this way anymore than that mom in our ballet class made herself have MS and walk or talk like she did. Know what I mean?? But people are people and they are ALWAYS going to stare, and assume and wonder and point and blame and cajole their own ideas....</p><p></p><p>Except in this case....you are the one doing it to yourself. So....knock it off. He is what he is, and since you can't change it you just have to find a different way to parent him, and do the best you can to live with it. Some days you can, other days you won't....some days you'll want to throw him out, other days you will.....and some days you will wish ya hadn't and then other days maybe you'll be glad you did and take yourself for a pedicure and detach. You love him....that's all you know for certain at this point. That's more than a lot of other kids have....start with that. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself some credit - LEAN on your girlfriends here.....and know that you've found a really soft place to land. With a friend that just loves to type and type and talk and talk.....lol. </p><p></p><p>......and at least if she's not normal....?.....she cares. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> and she doesn't care that she's not normal. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 333805, member: 4964"] Anyway to finish ---- What I'm trying to get at is this..... What seems very un normal and horrible, and weird and just beyond words to you? WE understand. So in that respect you are not alone. For that much? Is some comfort. Being alone and misunderstood is an awful place to be. Years and years ago maybe it was the 'norm' to look at a kid like ours and jerk him out of class or leave him in class and put him in the refrigerator box at the back of the class, or wonder if it was the "parents" fault for him being like he is. Or have that stigma as a parent to worry, grieve and be embarrassed that EVERYONE will think "It's me, I'm a lousy Mom." Well, it's not. It's a disorder. You didn't do it. You didn't make him this way - he just is. You didn't make him this way anymore than that mom in our ballet class made herself have MS and walk or talk like she did. Know what I mean?? But people are people and they are ALWAYS going to stare, and assume and wonder and point and blame and cajole their own ideas.... Except in this case....you are the one doing it to yourself. So....knock it off. He is what he is, and since you can't change it you just have to find a different way to parent him, and do the best you can to live with it. Some days you can, other days you won't....some days you'll want to throw him out, other days you will.....and some days you will wish ya hadn't and then other days maybe you'll be glad you did and take yourself for a pedicure and detach. You love him....that's all you know for certain at this point. That's more than a lot of other kids have....start with that. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself some credit - LEAN on your girlfriends here.....and know that you've found a really soft place to land. With a friend that just loves to type and type and talk and talk.....lol. ......and at least if she's not normal....?.....she cares. :raspberry-tounge: and she doesn't care that she's not normal. :raspberry-tounge: Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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