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I wish i could swear....you all would get an earful
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 548874" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>TL I'm glad you had such a satisfying trip and I'm sure you made a huge impact on those you came in contact with. The bonding experience you had with your easy child will stay with her forever. Please enjoy your travel days and put difficult child out of your mind for now. Once you get back you can deal with the fallout.</p><p></p><p>I often told you that my difficult child and yours are very similar. My difficult child also became involved with a guy in her treatment program and he did try to get her to leave. He would have succeeded if one of the guards didn't run out and convince her to come back.</p><p></p><p>I seems as though your difficult child enters these programs just to get off the street and have a roof over his head and food on his table, all paid for by you. He continues to do what he does and never really follows any of he programs. He fights the rules and tries to add conditions to him going. When he finds a way out he runs, this time he has someone to run with. Our difficult child's do not want to follow rules, they want to live their lives the way they want, including using whatever substance they want. </p><p></p><p>I think it's time that you stop supporting him totally, yes including treatment. He doesn't want treatment. You are spinning your wheels and spending a great deal of money and he is taking advantage of your vulnerability when it comes to him being on the street. He may end up in jail. I had to face that also. Everytime our phone rings I wonder if it's her telling us she's been arrested, or worse. You will have to make peace with the fact that you have done everything humanly possible to lead him to water and he refuses to drink.</p><p></p><p>I feel awful for you because I know how hard you have worked to search out programs and make arrangements and get him what he needs and he continues to do what he wants.</p><p></p><p>It's time you start to live for TL instead of the hope that he will change. I'm not saying give up hope, but I am saying give back the responsibility of that change to him, if he chooses it great and if he doesn't it's his life.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry TL I know how much you wanted this program to work.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 548874, member: 59"] TL I'm glad you had such a satisfying trip and I'm sure you made a huge impact on those you came in contact with. The bonding experience you had with your easy child will stay with her forever. Please enjoy your travel days and put difficult child out of your mind for now. Once you get back you can deal with the fallout. I often told you that my difficult child and yours are very similar. My difficult child also became involved with a guy in her treatment program and he did try to get her to leave. He would have succeeded if one of the guards didn't run out and convince her to come back. I seems as though your difficult child enters these programs just to get off the street and have a roof over his head and food on his table, all paid for by you. He continues to do what he does and never really follows any of he programs. He fights the rules and tries to add conditions to him going. When he finds a way out he runs, this time he has someone to run with. Our difficult child's do not want to follow rules, they want to live their lives the way they want, including using whatever substance they want. I think it's time that you stop supporting him totally, yes including treatment. He doesn't want treatment. You are spinning your wheels and spending a great deal of money and he is taking advantage of your vulnerability when it comes to him being on the street. He may end up in jail. I had to face that also. Everytime our phone rings I wonder if it's her telling us she's been arrested, or worse. You will have to make peace with the fact that you have done everything humanly possible to lead him to water and he refuses to drink. I feel awful for you because I know how hard you have worked to search out programs and make arrangements and get him what he needs and he continues to do what he wants. It's time you start to live for TL instead of the hope that he will change. I'm not saying give up hope, but I am saying give back the responsibility of that change to him, if he chooses it great and if he doesn't it's his life. I'm sorry TL I know how much you wanted this program to work. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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