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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 565445" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>i think "he was difficult" means absolutely nothing and gives you absolutely nothing to work with.</p><p></p><p>the better question is, he was difficult <em>how</em> and <em>what</em> specifically was happening <em>while</em> he was being so difficult?</p><p></p><p>maybe they are missing the big picture....for all you know, there was something miniscule that changed in the routine that affected his behavior, maybe he was sitting though a boring/hard/too easy lesson and there were more interesting things happening, maybe his behavior only is difficult after recess or at the childminder when its the long part of the day.</p><p></p><p>and then ask him the same question (leaving out the difficult part). matter of factually ask why did he (whatever) when the teacher asked him to do (whatever). </p><p></p><p>i'd bet one of the two questions gets you a pretty accurate assessment of the why, and if i was a betting woman, i'll go with J's answer.</p><p></p><p>that all being said, if i understand it right that part of his perceived difficultness was that he was running around flapping his arms in the wind pretending to fly.....</p><p></p><p>that sounds like a pretty insightful, self explanatory answer from any 6 year old.</p><p></p><p>have you had his IQ tested yet? i still think he sounds VERY bright with perhaps some underlying learning difficulties or impluse control issues--some kids are different types of learners that need to be more engaged rather than learn by drill and practice....and high intelligence can often look very adhd like. he may be the perfect angel when he's say, doing a cooking experiment to that is fun that is actually teaching measurements, following directions, etc vs a squirmy mess sitting at a desk looking at a blackboard full of equations with a teacher droning on and on. </p><p></p><p>and i still think that culture or not, they seem to have incredibly high expectations of young children...while the education system might be different in france, kids are all the same, and it seems to me that some of what is expected is almost developmentally impossible.</p><p></p><p>but yeah, hugs. we ALL dread that "difficult" conversation-no matter what country we live in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 565445, member: 8831"] i think "he was difficult" means absolutely nothing and gives you absolutely nothing to work with. the better question is, he was difficult [I]how[/I] and [I]what[/I] specifically was happening [I]while[/I] he was being so difficult? maybe they are missing the big picture....for all you know, there was something miniscule that changed in the routine that affected his behavior, maybe he was sitting though a boring/hard/too easy lesson and there were more interesting things happening, maybe his behavior only is difficult after recess or at the childminder when its the long part of the day. and then ask him the same question (leaving out the difficult part). matter of factually ask why did he (whatever) when the teacher asked him to do (whatever). i'd bet one of the two questions gets you a pretty accurate assessment of the why, and if i was a betting woman, i'll go with J's answer. that all being said, if i understand it right that part of his perceived difficultness was that he was running around flapping his arms in the wind pretending to fly..... that sounds like a pretty insightful, self explanatory answer from any 6 year old. have you had his IQ tested yet? i still think he sounds VERY bright with perhaps some underlying learning difficulties or impluse control issues--some kids are different types of learners that need to be more engaged rather than learn by drill and practice....and high intelligence can often look very adhd like. he may be the perfect angel when he's say, doing a cooking experiment to that is fun that is actually teaching measurements, following directions, etc vs a squirmy mess sitting at a desk looking at a blackboard full of equations with a teacher droning on and on. and i still think that culture or not, they seem to have incredibly high expectations of young children...while the education system might be different in france, kids are all the same, and it seems to me that some of what is expected is almost developmentally impossible. but yeah, hugs. we ALL dread that "difficult" conversation-no matter what country we live in. [/QUOTE]
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