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I would never have guessed that's why the principal wanted to meet with-us
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 350965" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's not an hour of game tie, but game time with you playing too. It's up to you to watch the clock and to help him disengage from the JOINT game.</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child 3 playing on computer games on his own - we have the same issues with "I just need to finish this level". We allow a little leeway on this because really, it saves time and energy and brings its own natural consequences. But I will sometimes say to him, "How much longer do you need?" and set the timer to let him know when that time is elapsed. You can either insist at that point, or ask again, "How much time?" and set the timer again. But keep note of how much time is actually spent, and make it clear to him afterwards that his "just a few more minutes" was actually a lot longer and he now has to make up more time in other areas.</p><p></p><p>One other thing we've used - we get difficult child to keep a log (or we do, as long as he will accept that what we've written is true) on how long he spends on gaming. We ten suggest to him how much better he would be doing academically, if he even came close to spending equal time on schoolwork.</p><p></p><p>Keeping your own time and motion study, or doing ti with his knowledge and even partial involvement, can be enlightening for him. </p><p></p><p>But in support of our kids playing games - they learn this way also, even if you feel it's wasted time. It's a coping strategy. I've found that when we try to limit gaming or have asked the boys to limit gaming, we have reduced their ability to cope in other areas. While they seem to be blindly toggling buttons or whatever, their brains are processing other information and calming themselves down. Of course, it does depend on what sort of games...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 350965, member: 1991"] It's not an hour of game tie, but game time with you playing too. It's up to you to watch the clock and to help him disengage from the JOINT game. As for difficult child 3 playing on computer games on his own - we have the same issues with "I just need to finish this level". We allow a little leeway on this because really, it saves time and energy and brings its own natural consequences. But I will sometimes say to him, "How much longer do you need?" and set the timer to let him know when that time is elapsed. You can either insist at that point, or ask again, "How much time?" and set the timer again. But keep note of how much time is actually spent, and make it clear to him afterwards that his "just a few more minutes" was actually a lot longer and he now has to make up more time in other areas. One other thing we've used - we get difficult child to keep a log (or we do, as long as he will accept that what we've written is true) on how long he spends on gaming. We ten suggest to him how much better he would be doing academically, if he even came close to spending equal time on schoolwork. Keeping your own time and motion study, or doing ti with his knowledge and even partial involvement, can be enlightening for him. But in support of our kids playing games - they learn this way also, even if you feel it's wasted time. It's a coping strategy. I've found that when we try to limit gaming or have asked the boys to limit gaming, we have reduced their ability to cope in other areas. While they seem to be blindly toggling buttons or whatever, their brains are processing other information and calming themselves down. Of course, it does depend on what sort of games... Marg [/QUOTE]
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