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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 149202" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>kt sounds like one wise child. </p><p>I remember our sd very often preferred to see any positive little things as a reason to begin to remove services and push towards lessening accomodations etc, even when WRAP, SASS, mentor, psychiatrist and therapist advised against it. Most of the time our sd just went ahead and did what they wanted to do, even against all the other "team" members and yes, it was a set up for a fall. </p><p>in my opinion HS is a giant transition in the first place. 4 times as many kids, from 4 feeder schools, the building is MUCH larger....the schedule far more hectic, so many many more techers and peers to get to know. Sadly here, any kids in any Special Education at all, at the time Buffy still went to school- were NOT allowed to participate in ANY extra curriculars, nor assemblies, sports events, field trips etc. No band, no chorus, no computer classes....even if they were mainstreamed. Nope, Buffy was not permitted prom or any dances etc. Altho, school kept telling her they would "consider" her attending some of those things, and they used it as a carrot to her, they never once did permit any of those things, even when Buffy was able to meet demands set forth etc. </p><p>Our professionals never were able to make the sd "get it" what they were doing by weekly changeing accomodations, changeing the "plan" as set forth, and everytime we had any small gain or progress in Buffy, or one small backslide, the school was in the biggest hurry to change everything. </p><p>All this to say- let your professionals guide, give them the input to what the sd wants and says. Do not pay any attention to anyone saying kt has "the most services" - someone has to be The One who "has the most services"- here it was my daughter. SO what? That means little. Maybe it means kts team is on top of getting what she needs and someone elses child does not have a team. Tats what the services are there for- to meet kids needs. DO not allow ANYONE to compare kt to anyone else. Two people can go thru the exact same thing and both will process it quite differently. Both will also grow and heal at different rates, and some will leap frog and start and stop up and down and back and forth. </p><p></p><p>I actually grew over the years to hate IEP meetings. For Buffy the sd had begun to call for them weekly, and they would last 3-6 hours each, and the sd would send people to them that had not even ever met Buffy......and there I would be with WRAP, SASS, psychiatrist, therapist, mentor and advocate trying to work for what was best for Buffy. Ours got so heated and ugly, my easy child saw one of the sd Special Education people one day out in public and the darned sd person had to nerve to make a comment to my easy child about her sister and easy child very nearly punched the sd person! I am praying your sd has a better "heart" and good intentions. I am afraid that between my Buffy and my son and what we have witnessed with the very different reasons for their IEPs....and the outcomes....we are rather pessimistic. And from listening to other local parents here, it is NOT getting better here, only worse. :-( </p><p>Good luck to you and kt. and cheers for her academic progress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 149202, member: 1697"] kt sounds like one wise child. I remember our sd very often preferred to see any positive little things as a reason to begin to remove services and push towards lessening accomodations etc, even when WRAP, SASS, mentor, psychiatrist and therapist advised against it. Most of the time our sd just went ahead and did what they wanted to do, even against all the other "team" members and yes, it was a set up for a fall. in my opinion HS is a giant transition in the first place. 4 times as many kids, from 4 feeder schools, the building is MUCH larger....the schedule far more hectic, so many many more techers and peers to get to know. Sadly here, any kids in any Special Education at all, at the time Buffy still went to school- were NOT allowed to participate in ANY extra curriculars, nor assemblies, sports events, field trips etc. No band, no chorus, no computer classes....even if they were mainstreamed. Nope, Buffy was not permitted prom or any dances etc. Altho, school kept telling her they would "consider" her attending some of those things, and they used it as a carrot to her, they never once did permit any of those things, even when Buffy was able to meet demands set forth etc. Our professionals never were able to make the sd "get it" what they were doing by weekly changeing accomodations, changeing the "plan" as set forth, and everytime we had any small gain or progress in Buffy, or one small backslide, the school was in the biggest hurry to change everything. All this to say- let your professionals guide, give them the input to what the sd wants and says. Do not pay any attention to anyone saying kt has "the most services" - someone has to be The One who "has the most services"- here it was my daughter. SO what? That means little. Maybe it means kts team is on top of getting what she needs and someone elses child does not have a team. Tats what the services are there for- to meet kids needs. DO not allow ANYONE to compare kt to anyone else. Two people can go thru the exact same thing and both will process it quite differently. Both will also grow and heal at different rates, and some will leap frog and start and stop up and down and back and forth. I actually grew over the years to hate IEP meetings. For Buffy the sd had begun to call for them weekly, and they would last 3-6 hours each, and the sd would send people to them that had not even ever met Buffy......and there I would be with WRAP, SASS, psychiatrist, therapist, mentor and advocate trying to work for what was best for Buffy. Ours got so heated and ugly, my easy child saw one of the sd Special Education people one day out in public and the darned sd person had to nerve to make a comment to my easy child about her sister and easy child very nearly punched the sd person! I am praying your sd has a better "heart" and good intentions. I am afraid that between my Buffy and my son and what we have witnessed with the very different reasons for their IEPs....and the outcomes....we are rather pessimistic. And from listening to other local parents here, it is NOT getting better here, only worse. :-( Good luck to you and kt. and cheers for her academic progress. [/QUOTE]
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