Ugh, Jamie, that just stinks.
I've never allowed Dylan to use the Bipolar card. Luckily for us, I don't know if he even realizes it can be played at this point (or maybe he just realizes I won't accept it, and so why bother).
Surprised the Lithium isn't taking care of the raging. Dylan's was squashed about 7 weeks into the drug.
I really have no advice. Maybe you can do some searching to find successful people that have BiPolar (BP), and show difficult child that people with this can succeed. I can tell you an author, Dylan Thomas, wrote a ton of books, has BiPolar (BP). My own BiPolar (BP) son reads his childrens work, and loves it.
Honestly, I would nip the blame card in the bud asap though (probably easier said than done). You don't want this becoming a bad habit.
I'm sorry.
Janna