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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 424979" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Invite caseworker to dinner, every night for a week. Maybe a sleepover too. </p><p></p><p>Mind you, you could find the "professional mindset" of "we don't get personally involved with our clients." The last time I met this one, was when the kids were involved in that film. Because the segment our kids was in, involved autistic teens and their siblings, the production company hired a SpEd to work with the kids. She was kind and compassionate, and because difficult child 3 was the most severe of the kids (in terms of his needs) plus he was the one they most needed "on deck", her focus was on him. Even though I was there and could have done the job better. Almost always, this SpEd was focussed on deflection when he began to get anxious, instead of helping him rationalise it. I had to step in a few times and stop her taking him away for another game of cards (while production was halted!) and instead say to her, "Let me talk to him." I could see why he was upset and could deal with the heart of the matter directly. If she had worked with me, we could have been a very powerful team.</p><p>In conversation with her, she told us she worked in SpEd units with behaviour problem kids. We all liked her and asked if we could stay in touch after filming, but she said ti would be unethical to give us her contact details, because there was always the chance one of our kids could end up in a unit where she worked, and to be in contact socially would be inappropriate. i didn't believe this - clearly (to me) for her own reasons, she was telling porkies ("pork pies" - lies - Aussie rhyming slang). I made a few discreet enquiries and found that Dept of Ed has no such policy - a good thing, since difficult child 3's first SpEds all live in our tiny village and we see them often.</p><p>Ironically, I do have that woman's contact details. I think she would be horrified to know. Someone in production sent us the full contact list for all crew (probably in error) attached to the production schedule. But I have respected her desire to just walk away and have her personal space.</p><p></p><p>The thing is - this was (allegedly) a very experienced, highly qualified professional who was hired, and she still stuffed it up. She was more a companion for difficult child 3, than an aide. While she spent a lot of time occupying difficult child 3, she also spent a lot of time talking with the other kids and their parents. But clearly, she needed that line in the sand.</p><p></p><p>But if you can, try that approach - befriend the idiot. it allows them to have a greater exposure to your situation, and in so doing, she may actually see what you are dealing with and realise that everyone is out of their depth.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 424979, member: 1991"] Invite caseworker to dinner, every night for a week. Maybe a sleepover too. Mind you, you could find the "professional mindset" of "we don't get personally involved with our clients." The last time I met this one, was when the kids were involved in that film. Because the segment our kids was in, involved autistic teens and their siblings, the production company hired a SpEd to work with the kids. She was kind and compassionate, and because difficult child 3 was the most severe of the kids (in terms of his needs) plus he was the one they most needed "on deck", her focus was on him. Even though I was there and could have done the job better. Almost always, this SpEd was focussed on deflection when he began to get anxious, instead of helping him rationalise it. I had to step in a few times and stop her taking him away for another game of cards (while production was halted!) and instead say to her, "Let me talk to him." I could see why he was upset and could deal with the heart of the matter directly. If she had worked with me, we could have been a very powerful team. In conversation with her, she told us she worked in SpEd units with behaviour problem kids. We all liked her and asked if we could stay in touch after filming, but she said ti would be unethical to give us her contact details, because there was always the chance one of our kids could end up in a unit where she worked, and to be in contact socially would be inappropriate. i didn't believe this - clearly (to me) for her own reasons, she was telling porkies ("pork pies" - lies - Aussie rhyming slang). I made a few discreet enquiries and found that Dept of Ed has no such policy - a good thing, since difficult child 3's first SpEds all live in our tiny village and we see them often. Ironically, I do have that woman's contact details. I think she would be horrified to know. Someone in production sent us the full contact list for all crew (probably in error) attached to the production schedule. But I have respected her desire to just walk away and have her personal space. The thing is - this was (allegedly) a very experienced, highly qualified professional who was hired, and she still stuffed it up. She was more a companion for difficult child 3, than an aide. While she spent a lot of time occupying difficult child 3, she also spent a lot of time talking with the other kids and their parents. But clearly, she needed that line in the sand. But if you can, try that approach - befriend the idiot. it allows them to have a greater exposure to your situation, and in so doing, she may actually see what you are dealing with and realise that everyone is out of their depth. Marg [/QUOTE]
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