Kjs, you should have to live like this. I'm not saying you should give him up to a foster home. Just that he isn't stable and you are miserable and taking the brunt of it. What does psychiatrist say? Does the psychiatrist know difficult child isn't stable? Therapy is a good idea. It might take awhile to help or to find the right match for difficult child, but its worth it when it does help.
Sorry I just saw your post about psychiatrist. A behavior journal might help get the message to psychiatrist of what you're going through on a daily bases and let you get some of the tension out through writing it down. Then even if he only spends 10 min. with you he has the data in front of him.
