There was a time I actually despised the word “hope.” At the FA mtg I’ve attended, I think they don’t understand this. One woman had a story of a child who had been in ten rehabs and all the horrors that go with that, whose daughter is much better. So…there was hope after all those years.
Our daughter is severely mentally ill. And she’s adopted …so there are some unanswered curiosities. I don’t particularly feel hope. No rehab really fir what she has and worse…zero desire on her part to get help.
It’s interesting, sad, comforting…that I see myself in many others here. I too got housing for my adult unwell child. The last situation blew up colossally and was mind boggling detrimental to our well being …for myself and my husband and I. All her fault, yet she showed no remorse and hasn’t seemed to learn from it we suspect.
FA (and I bet all the 12 step programs ) can help to put things in perspective. We see things more clearly now. Number one..you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
And we are responsible for ourselves. Not them. Our health. Our happiness. Our lives. Not theirs. Doesn’t work anyway.
Consider one of these type of programs. Possibly therapy…even short term. Keep coming here. Lots of wise folks. We understand.
