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If you could raise your kids again, what would you change?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tired Mom" data-source="post: 691245" data-attributes="member: 18222"><p>When my husband announced he was quitting his job to go back to school to get his phd when difficult child was one I should have separated from him and have him take difficult child. It was a terrible trigger for me my mother left my father when I was 7 and went back to school. She barely worked for 5 years and my father was definitely a deadbeat and never paid child support. Those years as a child were really a case of barely having enough food, very few clothes, living in the projects, etc. I was bound and determined to never be that poor when I grew up. I thought I had escaped that poverty after graduating from college and getting a job but when he quit his job it brought back all those terrible memories and it put all of the pressure on me. I had to work and had all financial responsibilities, I had all responsibilities for taking care of difficult child because he was busy with school, I had all responsibility for cleaning the house because he busy with school. I did not handle the pressure well at all. I know that it was not good for difficult child. I wish more than anything that I could take back those years difficult child did not deserve to grow up in that environment where I was so angry. I can never make up that up to difficult child and it hurts for me to know that my anger at that time was part of what made him a difficult child and that there is nothing that I can ever do to make it up to him. It sickens me because my mom was always angry and I was always the target of her anger since she didn't remarry until I was 22 and never had any more children. I never wanted to be like my mother and I look back at those years and that anger was exactly like my mother.</p><p></p><p>I also wish I had really understood how much mental illness is inherited. There is so much mental illness in my family and my husbands family that I really never should have had children.</p><p></p><p>Finally when difficult child first started acting out at four I should have pushed back more on husband when I wanted to take his phycologist or someone to work with him and husband said no.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired Mom, post: 691245, member: 18222"] When my husband announced he was quitting his job to go back to school to get his phd when difficult child was one I should have separated from him and have him take difficult child. It was a terrible trigger for me my mother left my father when I was 7 and went back to school. She barely worked for 5 years and my father was definitely a deadbeat and never paid child support. Those years as a child were really a case of barely having enough food, very few clothes, living in the projects, etc. I was bound and determined to never be that poor when I grew up. I thought I had escaped that poverty after graduating from college and getting a job but when he quit his job it brought back all those terrible memories and it put all of the pressure on me. I had to work and had all financial responsibilities, I had all responsibilities for taking care of difficult child because he was busy with school, I had all responsibility for cleaning the house because he busy with school. I did not handle the pressure well at all. I know that it was not good for difficult child. I wish more than anything that I could take back those years difficult child did not deserve to grow up in that environment where I was so angry. I can never make up that up to difficult child and it hurts for me to know that my anger at that time was part of what made him a difficult child and that there is nothing that I can ever do to make it up to him. It sickens me because my mom was always angry and I was always the target of her anger since she didn't remarry until I was 22 and never had any more children. I never wanted to be like my mother and I look back at those years and that anger was exactly like my mother. I also wish I had really understood how much mental illness is inherited. There is so much mental illness in my family and my husbands family that I really never should have had children. Finally when difficult child first started acting out at four I should have pushed back more on husband when I wanted to take his phycologist or someone to work with him and husband said no. [/QUOTE]
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