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If you could raise your kids again, what would you change?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 691291" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Lil...</p><p>Which of those things that you want to do over, would actually make that much of a difference?</p><p> </p><p>I could have written a book on "what I would have done differently". There's a million things that I literally did completely wrong. And a different set that Hubby did wrong. But we weren't the only pieces of the puzzle. And... in spite of what we did wrong, it is amazing how much we actually also did right. Sometimes, we lose that perspective. (sometimes? like, most of the time?)</p><p> </p><p>A different school could have been better - or worse.</p><p>A private psychologist might have been better - or worse.</p><p>And the list goes on.</p><p> </p><p>Had we gotten the right help, at the right time, for each member of the family, the outcome WOULD have been different. That much I am certain of. But how much of that "getting the right help" was actually within my control? Not much.</p><p> </p><p>And so. Looking back. That is why the ONE thing that I really wish we had done differently, was to live in the country. Not because it would necessarily have been "better" for my really challenging kid - or even for my not-so-challenging kid. But because it would have been better for ME to be on "farm time" - not scheduled down to the minute, not stressed out over every little thing including what the neighbors think because the grass is getting long again. Being in the country would have enabled ME to be a better parent. Having seen now what country time in small doses does for my kids, it would have been good for them too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 691291, member: 11791"] Lil... Which of those things that you want to do over, would actually make that much of a difference? I could have written a book on "what I would have done differently". There's a million things that I literally did completely wrong. And a different set that Hubby did wrong. But we weren't the only pieces of the puzzle. And... in spite of what we did wrong, it is amazing how much we actually also did right. Sometimes, we lose that perspective. (sometimes? like, most of the time?) A different school could have been better - or worse. A private psychologist might have been better - or worse. And the list goes on. Had we gotten the right help, at the right time, for each member of the family, the outcome WOULD have been different. That much I am certain of. But how much of that "getting the right help" was actually within my control? Not much. And so. Looking back. That is why the ONE thing that I really wish we had done differently, was to live in the country. Not because it would necessarily have been "better" for my really challenging kid - or even for my not-so-challenging kid. But because it would have been better for ME to be on "farm time" - not scheduled down to the minute, not stressed out over every little thing including what the neighbors think because the grass is getting long again. Being in the country would have enabled ME to be a better parent. Having seen now what country time in small doses does for my kids, it would have been good for them too. [/QUOTE]
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