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If you could raise your kids again, what would you change?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 691297" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I so agree with this.</p><p></p><p>I agree, too, the point of view illustrated by in a daze--who did every single thing that Cedar condemns herself for not having done--with the same result, or a version of it.</p><p></p><p>I believe that we as parents share a commonality here on the board--over and above our children. Our tendency to hold ourselves responsible, which is a good thing--to a point. Perhaps we hold in common, many of us, an idealized version of what life is, can be. And berate ourselves for not having attained or achieved that illusion.</p><p></p><p>Does anybody, really? What we see, really, is a fantasy--on TV, ads, even that which certain families seem to be like, is a careful display created to convince even themselves.</p><p></p><p>We are not responsible for the free choice of our children. Adults respond to drug use and mental illness in all manner of ways Their parents are not responsible for that over which they have no control.</p><p></p><p>Real life is messy. But it is real. The only lives we will ever have are those we have. I for one am beginning to feel gratitude for my own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 691297, member: 18958"] I so agree with this. I agree, too, the point of view illustrated by in a daze--who did every single thing that Cedar condemns herself for not having done--with the same result, or a version of it. I believe that we as parents share a commonality here on the board--over and above our children. Our tendency to hold ourselves responsible, which is a good thing--to a point. Perhaps we hold in common, many of us, an idealized version of what life is, can be. And berate ourselves for not having attained or achieved that illusion. Does anybody, really? What we see, really, is a fantasy--on TV, ads, even that which certain families seem to be like, is a careful display created to convince even themselves. We are not responsible for the free choice of our children. Adults respond to drug use and mental illness in all manner of ways Their parents are not responsible for that over which they have no control. Real life is messy. But it is real. The only lives we will ever have are those we have. I for one am beginning to feel gratitude for my own. [/QUOTE]
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