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If you could raise your kids again, what would you change?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 710208" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I said earlier something about wishing that we took trips more often and I still do, but the truth is that our difficult child made most trips extraordinarily difficult. We did the best we could under extraordinarily difficult circumstances. What we tended to do is go to the same place year after year for a week. It is a favorite spot among families only two hours away. Sometimes we went just with our family and sometimes we went with another family. Our Difficult Child coped best with familiar surroundings.</p><p></p><p>One time, our son's friend, whose father was a physician and divorced, asked if our son could join them on a trip. I jumped at the opportunity. That worked out well.</p><p></p><p>I think perhaps I might in retrospect of asked for a little help from relatives or friends. Not so much as to burden them, but just a little more help.</p><p></p><p>We truly needed it and even just a little more help would of been appreciated and perhaps made a difference.</p><p></p><p>I also wish we were more consistent in our discpline, especially with our other child who didn't have as many issues as our Difficult Child.</p><p></p><p>He ended up with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) (not too bad) and I think it could be because of the very peculiar behaviors of his sister and also because sometimes we were just too exhausted to cope with the craziness and we let things slide.</p><p></p><p>This certainly can lead to insecurity and perhaps entitlement.</p><p></p><p>He had a VERY bad teen year (was always a super kid) and we had to go tough love all the way and fortunately that worked well and he is a very responsible young adult today.</p><p></p><p>So...I would add that I wish we had asked for some more help. I still don't believe in burdening others or overwhelming others. But, we just simply could of used extra help.</p><p></p><p>And more consistent with our discipline (for lack of a better word). I think our non special needs child kinda got away with things at times...maybe because his sister was sooo extreme.</p><p></p><p>I did see a therapist and from time to time husband and I saw a counselor...that was great. We had a good babysitter...also great. But with a special needs child, the more support you can get, probably the better (assuming the support is from a healthy source).</p><p>(The therapist and the good babysitter were things I would highly recommend...big time!)</p><p></p><p>I still marvel that we made it through all of that. It still is kinda difficult...but not as bad as those early years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 710208, member: 4152"] I said earlier something about wishing that we took trips more often and I still do, but the truth is that our difficult child made most trips extraordinarily difficult. We did the best we could under extraordinarily difficult circumstances. What we tended to do is go to the same place year after year for a week. It is a favorite spot among families only two hours away. Sometimes we went just with our family and sometimes we went with another family. Our Difficult Child coped best with familiar surroundings. One time, our son's friend, whose father was a physician and divorced, asked if our son could join them on a trip. I jumped at the opportunity. That worked out well. I think perhaps I might in retrospect of asked for a little help from relatives or friends. Not so much as to burden them, but just a little more help. We truly needed it and even just a little more help would of been appreciated and perhaps made a difference. I also wish we were more consistent in our discpline, especially with our other child who didn't have as many issues as our Difficult Child. He ended up with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) (not too bad) and I think it could be because of the very peculiar behaviors of his sister and also because sometimes we were just too exhausted to cope with the craziness and we let things slide. This certainly can lead to insecurity and perhaps entitlement. He had a VERY bad teen year (was always a super kid) and we had to go tough love all the way and fortunately that worked well and he is a very responsible young adult today. So...I would add that I wish we had asked for some more help. I still don't believe in burdening others or overwhelming others. But, we just simply could of used extra help. And more consistent with our discipline (for lack of a better word). I think our non special needs child kinda got away with things at times...maybe because his sister was sooo extreme. I did see a therapist and from time to time husband and I saw a counselor...that was great. We had a good babysitter...also great. But with a special needs child, the more support you can get, probably the better (assuming the support is from a healthy source). (The therapist and the good babysitter were things I would highly recommend...big time!) I still marvel that we made it through all of that. It still is kinda difficult...but not as bad as those early years. [/QUOTE]
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