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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 85159" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>GG ~ I struggled with guilt to the point I became 'numb'.</p><p></p><p>I had searched for help with my son's coaches and our church pastor. It made me lose something inside from the very beginning just sharing with them that I couldn't stop my son's behavior on my own.</p><p></p><p>When it progressed to the point of me calling the police and having him arrested I thought I was going to die. I could not handle the fact that I made the call.</p><p></p><p>Thru the yrs I made many decisions for placements (hospital,grouphome,jail) Each time I was left second guessing myself. But I believe every mother second guesses her child rearing decisions. You have such a responsibility and you only want what is best and regardless of the child and the outcome I think everyone wonders if the right decisions were made.</p><p></p><p>I believe it is a process we all have to endure to come to terms with our families. Each of us works thru it in different ways and at our own pace.</p><p></p><p>I know I can see a small child and think of my son at that age and how I never dreamed he would be in jail today. </p><p></p><p>Looking back, I had lots of guilt but, I had much more heartache from watching my son destroy his future and regardless of what I did he still continued downward.</p><p></p><p>Today is much better. I can let go of the guilt and know that I did everything I could to help him. Every decision was not the right decision but, every decision was made out of love to save my son.</p><p></p><p>I hope you find peace with this. I can only say that prayer and this board has allowed me to come to terms with how my family unit is now. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p></p><p>Traci</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 85159, member: 2389"] GG ~ I struggled with guilt to the point I became 'numb'. I had searched for help with my son's coaches and our church pastor. It made me lose something inside from the very beginning just sharing with them that I couldn't stop my son's behavior on my own. When it progressed to the point of me calling the police and having him arrested I thought I was going to die. I could not handle the fact that I made the call. Thru the yrs I made many decisions for placements (hospital,grouphome,jail) Each time I was left second guessing myself. But I believe every mother second guesses her child rearing decisions. You have such a responsibility and you only want what is best and regardless of the child and the outcome I think everyone wonders if the right decisions were made. I believe it is a process we all have to endure to come to terms with our families. Each of us works thru it in different ways and at our own pace. I know I can see a small child and think of my son at that age and how I never dreamed he would be in jail today. Looking back, I had lots of guilt but, I had much more heartache from watching my son destroy his future and regardless of what I did he still continued downward. Today is much better. I can let go of the guilt and know that I did everything I could to help him. Every decision was not the right decision but, every decision was made out of love to save my son. I hope you find peace with this. I can only say that prayer and this board has allowed me to come to terms with how my family unit is now. (((((hugs))))) Traci [/QUOTE]
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