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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 171362" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi! My difficult child is older, so I don't pop in here as often as I do often other forums. In many ways your posts bring back memories.</p><p> </p><p>Personally, The Explosive Child is far better than the book by Riley. I really think the Riley book may be too harsh for a 3.5 yo child. Just my opiniion, but I KNOW that following similar guidelinesdid FAR more harm to my bond with my difficult child than anything else.</p><p> </p><p>In all things parenting, follow your instincts. </p><p> </p><p>I found much help from Parenting with Love and Logic. For a child your age, and in your special situation, you may need the love and logic book on special needs kids, or you may be able to work best with Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood.</p><p> </p><p>The Autism society is a great place to start to find the professionals who will help, if that is your diagnosis. </p><p> </p><p>Be prepared for docs/professionals who do not treat aspergers to tell you your child is too verbal, and/or has to many other characteristics that are aspergers but not straight autistic to BE aspergers. There are many Aspie parent support groups.</p><p> </p><p>One of the first things you may be able to get help for is sensory issues. If I had known about these things earlier, I really think my family's history woudl have been radically different. </p><p> </p><p>Get a PRIVATE (non-school based) occupational therapy assessment. They just look for different things.ASK for training on brushing therapy. The book about this (the best one) is "The Out of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. It is about Sensory Integration Disorder. Our private Occupational Therapist (OT) said that she sees sensory issues in most, if not all, children in her practice with autism. The brushing therapy is non-invasive, but is NOT to be done until you have been told it is needed AND you have been shown how. You actually CAN mess up your child's bodily functions if you don't get proper training as some areas are not to be brushed with-o causing problems beyond sensory ones. One of the other books by this author, "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun" may give you ideas into any areas where your child has sensory issues, jsut by which things are fun for your child. Again, DON"T diagnose this by yourself, but make notes to take to the various professionals.</p><p> </p><p>In our FAQ/Board Help section of the CD Board, you will find a thread on Parent Input/multidisciplinary evaluations. The Parent Input is a format for structuring info about your child. A couple of parents here came up with it (and shared!!) so that you can get all the info you want onto paper and into a report to share with the docs. It will help you communicate with all the docs/"experts" you will consult. </p><p> </p><p>The "good" thing about 3 months to get into various experts for evaluations is that it gives you time to get teh report together, read it a week or more later, and include the stuff you forgot. and repeat until you get it to be how you want it. I think including small photos of your child in the master copy of the report (the one you keep and make copies from) in the beginning of each section is very helpful. It makes sure the docs see that it is a CHILD (and WHICH child) they are reading about.</p><p> </p><p>HAs anyone mentioned seeking help from a developmental pediatrician? They are, as I remember it, psychiatrists (MDs) who do extra training/rotations into how children develop. We got the most insight into Aspergers from the dev. pediatrician we saw. The evaluation his office did included the neuropsychologist and other specialists. While this is not common to all dev pediatrician's, it was for ours. </p><p> </p><p>I am glad you found us, welcome and stick around!</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 171362, member: 1233"] Hi! My difficult child is older, so I don't pop in here as often as I do often other forums. In many ways your posts bring back memories. Personally, The Explosive Child is far better than the book by Riley. I really think the Riley book may be too harsh for a 3.5 yo child. Just my opiniion, but I KNOW that following similar guidelinesdid FAR more harm to my bond with my difficult child than anything else. In all things parenting, follow your instincts. I found much help from Parenting with Love and Logic. For a child your age, and in your special situation, you may need the love and logic book on special needs kids, or you may be able to work best with Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood. The Autism society is a great place to start to find the professionals who will help, if that is your diagnosis. Be prepared for docs/professionals who do not treat aspergers to tell you your child is too verbal, and/or has to many other characteristics that are aspergers but not straight autistic to BE aspergers. There are many Aspie parent support groups. One of the first things you may be able to get help for is sensory issues. If I had known about these things earlier, I really think my family's history woudl have been radically different. Get a PRIVATE (non-school based) occupational therapy assessment. They just look for different things.ASK for training on brushing therapy. The book about this (the best one) is "The Out of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. It is about Sensory Integration Disorder. Our private Occupational Therapist (OT) said that she sees sensory issues in most, if not all, children in her practice with autism. The brushing therapy is non-invasive, but is NOT to be done until you have been told it is needed AND you have been shown how. You actually CAN mess up your child's bodily functions if you don't get proper training as some areas are not to be brushed with-o causing problems beyond sensory ones. One of the other books by this author, "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun" may give you ideas into any areas where your child has sensory issues, jsut by which things are fun for your child. Again, DON"T diagnose this by yourself, but make notes to take to the various professionals. In our FAQ/Board Help section of the CD Board, you will find a thread on Parent Input/multidisciplinary evaluations. The Parent Input is a format for structuring info about your child. A couple of parents here came up with it (and shared!!) so that you can get all the info you want onto paper and into a report to share with the docs. It will help you communicate with all the docs/"experts" you will consult. The "good" thing about 3 months to get into various experts for evaluations is that it gives you time to get teh report together, read it a week or more later, and include the stuff you forgot. and repeat until you get it to be how you want it. I think including small photos of your child in the master copy of the report (the one you keep and make copies from) in the beginning of each section is very helpful. It makes sure the docs see that it is a CHILD (and WHICH child) they are reading about. HAs anyone mentioned seeking help from a developmental pediatrician? They are, as I remember it, psychiatrists (MDs) who do extra training/rotations into how children develop. We got the most insight into Aspergers from the dev. pediatrician we saw. The evaluation his office did included the neuropsychologist and other specialists. While this is not common to all dev pediatrician's, it was for ours. I am glad you found us, welcome and stick around! Susie [/QUOTE]
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