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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 208156" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry it is coming to this point. I wish I had magic words to make you comfortable with all of this.</p><p> </p><p>As far as the "I didn't think you were serious!" claim, I think it is manipulation. If it worked once, he expects it to continue to work and will use it until it doesn't. And probably several more times after that.</p><p> </p><p>Is there some way you and husband could set him up with a cheap apartment and a month or two of rent, and the deposits? Or a room in a house with some other guys? I don't know if this is financially do-able or not.</p><p> </p><p>I hate to say that it may have to come to the point where you make him leave with a week or two's notice (and it will be very hard to be firm during those weeks, I am so sorry). He won't beleive you will do it, until you do.</p><p> </p><p>But, if he is blowing all his $$ on a video game, is not doing much else besides working and this game, well, then you may not have any other choice. He may have to learn this one the hard way. </p><p> </p><p>It may be when you make him leave that he ends up in a shelter for a while. Or he might get his stuff together (with some stumbles) and succeed. You probably won't get the success with-o a whole lot of pain ont he way.</p><p> </p><p>But what you are doing now isn't working, is it? </p><p> </p><p>I am just so sorry, I keep saying that, but I don't know what else to say. Know that I am sending support for whatever you decide to do. No matter what. I know making my osn leave was hands down the HARDEST thing I have ever done. I hope that in time your son learns how to manage his life to some degree of success.</p><p> </p><p>Gentle hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 208156, member: 1233"] I am so sorry it is coming to this point. I wish I had magic words to make you comfortable with all of this. As far as the "I didn't think you were serious!" claim, I think it is manipulation. If it worked once, he expects it to continue to work and will use it until it doesn't. And probably several more times after that. Is there some way you and husband could set him up with a cheap apartment and a month or two of rent, and the deposits? Or a room in a house with some other guys? I don't know if this is financially do-able or not. I hate to say that it may have to come to the point where you make him leave with a week or two's notice (and it will be very hard to be firm during those weeks, I am so sorry). He won't beleive you will do it, until you do. But, if he is blowing all his $$ on a video game, is not doing much else besides working and this game, well, then you may not have any other choice. He may have to learn this one the hard way. It may be when you make him leave that he ends up in a shelter for a while. Or he might get his stuff together (with some stumbles) and succeed. You probably won't get the success with-o a whole lot of pain ont he way. But what you are doing now isn't working, is it? I am just so sorry, I keep saying that, but I don't know what else to say. Know that I am sending support for whatever you decide to do. No matter what. I know making my osn leave was hands down the HARDEST thing I have ever done. I hope that in time your son learns how to manage his life to some degree of success. Gentle hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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