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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 208165" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>I'm exactly where you are, and all I can say is, it s**ks. I know it all in theory and I see it unfolding in front of me. The only thing theory doesn't take into account is that we have a history with our kids. We knew them when. Whether it was breastfeeding them and sitting up all night with them, night after night while they had night terrors or sitting in the hospital while they struggled with viral meningitis, or whether it was cheering them on at T-ball and realizing that they were more interested in the grasshopper at their feet than in the fly ball coming their way - we knew them. We loved them. We went to bat for them, time after time. </p><p></p><p>Logically and objectively, I find it is easy for me to say what should happen when an 18 or 19 or 20 year old needs to experience natural consequences. The trouble we parents face is, we've been in this subjectively since Day 1, whether that was Birth Day or Adoption Day. There IS a disconnect that cuts to the heart and leaves us bleeding. I'm trying my best to stanch the hemorrhage. But I do sympathize with you, and with everyone who is facing the subjective/objective disconnect. It hurts like hell. And I salute the ones who have made it through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 208165, member: 2884"] I'm exactly where you are, and all I can say is, it s**ks. I know it all in theory and I see it unfolding in front of me. The only thing theory doesn't take into account is that we have a history with our kids. We knew them when. Whether it was breastfeeding them and sitting up all night with them, night after night while they had night terrors or sitting in the hospital while they struggled with viral meningitis, or whether it was cheering them on at T-ball and realizing that they were more interested in the grasshopper at their feet than in the fly ball coming their way - we knew them. We loved them. We went to bat for them, time after time. Logically and objectively, I find it is easy for me to say what should happen when an 18 or 19 or 20 year old needs to experience natural consequences. The trouble we parents face is, we've been in this subjectively since Day 1, whether that was Birth Day or Adoption Day. There IS a disconnect that cuts to the heart and leaves us bleeding. I'm trying my best to stanch the hemorrhage. But I do sympathize with you, and with everyone who is facing the subjective/objective disconnect. It hurts like hell. And I salute the ones who have made it through. [/QUOTE]
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