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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 19888" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I am here reading along too, Alice Lee. </p><p></p><p>Hearthope and Genny are right. If you can find help for yourselves, you and your husband will make it through this time stronger. When your daughter says these things to you, remind yourself that she is not thinking straight ~ and which of us could think straight, if the man we think we love turns on us and begs us to come back and turns on us again?</p><p></p><p>She cannot see his sickness.</p><p></p><p>You can, but if you confront her with your understanding, she will turn on you.</p><p></p><p>You have more power than you know.</p><p></p><p>Think ahead about the things you want your daughter to hear.</p><p></p><p>The number for women's shelter.</p><p></p><p>To dial 911 without hesitation if she feels she needs to.</p><p></p><p>To come home any hour of the day or the night.</p><p></p><p>That you love her and that you believe in her.</p><p></p><p>Remember that in addition to physically abusing her, this man is destroying your child's self esteem and her ability to think for, or to believe anything good about, herself.</p><p></p><p>That is why it is important for you to state your truths clearly, even if they don't make sense in the conversation.</p><p></p><p>Don't threaten her, and don't preach.</p><p></p><p>Tell her she deserves better, and that she does not have to live this way.</p><p></p><p>Tell her again and again that you love her and that when she is ready, you will be there.</p><p></p><p>You are not as helpless as you feel, Alice Lee. In fact, your strength will enable your daughter to leave this relationship.</p><p></p><p>Without you, she may never believe in herself enough to get out of it.</p><p></p><p>Hold faith with her. Everything you taught her about herself when she was a little girl is still there.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 19888, member: 3353"] I am here reading along too, Alice Lee. Hearthope and Genny are right. If you can find help for yourselves, you and your husband will make it through this time stronger. When your daughter says these things to you, remind yourself that she is not thinking straight ~ and which of us could think straight, if the man we think we love turns on us and begs us to come back and turns on us again? She cannot see his sickness. You can, but if you confront her with your understanding, she will turn on you. You have more power than you know. Think ahead about the things you want your daughter to hear. The number for women's shelter. To dial 911 without hesitation if she feels she needs to. To come home any hour of the day or the night. That you love her and that you believe in her. Remember that in addition to physically abusing her, this man is destroying your child's self esteem and her ability to think for, or to believe anything good about, herself. That is why it is important for you to state your truths clearly, even if they don't make sense in the conversation. Don't threaten her, and don't preach. Tell her she deserves better, and that she does not have to live this way. Tell her again and again that you love her and that when she is ready, you will be there. You are not as helpless as you feel, Alice Lee. In fact, your strength will enable your daughter to leave this relationship. Without you, she may never believe in herself enough to get out of it. Hold faith with her. Everything you taught her about herself when she was a little girl is still there. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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