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<blockquote data-quote="howlongto18" data-source="post: 122483" data-attributes="member: 3129"><p>I homeschool but my kiddo is only kindergarten age. I plan to do it next year as well. I can't say how well it would work for you and your child, but I'll give you the pros and cons for us.</p><p></p><p>First the cons:</p><p></p><p>He is here all day. When we are having bad times I have no respite to look forward to.</p><p></p><p>He tries to push my buttons during reading lessons. He pretends he doesn't know how to do it, won't settle down and it usually takes quite a bit of deep breathing (on my part) and sometimes even a timeout or something to get him to be respectful. On a bad day we sometimes only get as far as reading and give up. A side note, if you do it figure out the worst subjects and schedule them last and after a break of some sort with a reward for completion. We could drop reading for now because he's kindergarten age, but he is the one who wants to learn it, he just thinks he should be able to without trying, lol.</p><p></p><p>Tons of people will give you cr@p about it.</p><p></p><p>When your brain is fried you have to think about what to do tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>The pros:</p><p></p><p>If you are having a bad morning you don't have to push it, you can start and stop and take breaks whenever you want.</p><p></p><p>You can custom fit the schooling to what interests difficult child for better learning, cooperation and retention.</p><p></p><p>You can force difficult child to take responsibility by choosing what he/she wants to learn about.</p><p></p><p>Pajamas are ok.</p><p></p><p>Snotty attitudes can be okay too.</p><p></p><p>Advanced knowledge on a subject is rewarded instead of punished like a public school. When the work is done, school is done. If you are good at math and it takes ten minutes, you are out early.</p><p></p><p>If you know they are cycling or acting up, you can accept really cruddy work that the ps teacher probably would not.</p><p></p><p>Field trips are plentiful if you want them to be... you'd be amazed at the places you'll be forced to discover.</p><p></p><p>You will practice patience (heaven knows I have, and I must say I have seen improvement in myself)</p><p></p><p>You will be surprised when sometimes it actually is fun and brings you closer. (the next day you will want to gouge your ears out with a spoon)</p><p></p><p></p><p>Anyway, that's enough input for now. If you do it I would allow some time to decompress. If she has a problem just getting started then I wouldn't just not hold school, but I would let her choose from a list of educational activities that you make up beforehand and keep it pretty low key until she gets out of the funk. Then gradually add in the regular subjects. When our kids are out of control their mental health is more important than getting a little behind in schoolwork, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>The biggest thing I've learned while homeschooling is that you can lead a horse to water, you can even make it the best d@mn water the world has to offer, and that friggin' horse still might turn up his nose and kick you in the face to boot. You cannot teach anyone who doesn't want to be taught. Your job is to try to motivate the child, which is not an easy task, but if and when you can leave the burden on your child's shoulders, it lightens things tremendously for yourself. A common conversation in our home is Juan Carlos, let me know when you're ready because I have work to do, take a break until you are ready to learn. If you want to be able to read books and letters from your friends only you can do the work it takes to get there. Then I go mop the floors and usually he'll be ready to learn when I'm done... sometimes not. Point is, no one teaches anyone else anything. People teach themselves with teachers as the tools.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="howlongto18, post: 122483, member: 3129"] I homeschool but my kiddo is only kindergarten age. I plan to do it next year as well. I can't say how well it would work for you and your child, but I'll give you the pros and cons for us. First the cons: He is here all day. When we are having bad times I have no respite to look forward to. He tries to push my buttons during reading lessons. He pretends he doesn't know how to do it, won't settle down and it usually takes quite a bit of deep breathing (on my part) and sometimes even a timeout or something to get him to be respectful. On a bad day we sometimes only get as far as reading and give up. A side note, if you do it figure out the worst subjects and schedule them last and after a break of some sort with a reward for completion. We could drop reading for now because he's kindergarten age, but he is the one who wants to learn it, he just thinks he should be able to without trying, lol. Tons of people will give you cr@p about it. When your brain is fried you have to think about what to do tomorrow. The pros: If you are having a bad morning you don't have to push it, you can start and stop and take breaks whenever you want. You can custom fit the schooling to what interests difficult child for better learning, cooperation and retention. You can force difficult child to take responsibility by choosing what he/she wants to learn about. Pajamas are ok. Snotty attitudes can be okay too. Advanced knowledge on a subject is rewarded instead of punished like a public school. When the work is done, school is done. If you are good at math and it takes ten minutes, you are out early. If you know they are cycling or acting up, you can accept really cruddy work that the ps teacher probably would not. Field trips are plentiful if you want them to be... you'd be amazed at the places you'll be forced to discover. You will practice patience (heaven knows I have, and I must say I have seen improvement in myself) You will be surprised when sometimes it actually is fun and brings you closer. (the next day you will want to gouge your ears out with a spoon) Anyway, that's enough input for now. If you do it I would allow some time to decompress. If she has a problem just getting started then I wouldn't just not hold school, but I would let her choose from a list of educational activities that you make up beforehand and keep it pretty low key until she gets out of the funk. Then gradually add in the regular subjects. When our kids are out of control their mental health is more important than getting a little behind in schoolwork, in my opinion. The biggest thing I've learned while homeschooling is that you can lead a horse to water, you can even make it the best d@mn water the world has to offer, and that friggin' horse still might turn up his nose and kick you in the face to boot. You cannot teach anyone who doesn't want to be taught. Your job is to try to motivate the child, which is not an easy task, but if and when you can leave the burden on your child's shoulders, it lightens things tremendously for yourself. A common conversation in our home is Juan Carlos, let me know when you're ready because I have work to do, take a break until you are ready to learn. If you want to be able to read books and letters from your friends only you can do the work it takes to get there. Then I go mop the floors and usually he'll be ready to learn when I'm done... sometimes not. Point is, no one teaches anyone else anything. People teach themselves with teachers as the tools. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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