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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 393218" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Jena, I'd put moving at the bottom of my list; gives difficult child a bit too much power. She's very aware of the time, energy & emotional drain she's causing .... sometimes our little wonders thrive in that.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Saying that, I cannot remember do you have any services in your county. I'm thinking a girls group supervised by a therapist or a couple of SWs. I don't mean a touchy feely talk group ~ I'm talking a group where activities are planned & carried out. A movie night, a night of putting together a basket for an adopted family in need. Doing hair & nails & just talking as young women will do but in a somewhat controlled setting. One week a night is planning the next months activities. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I ask this because kt is in the same type of group & she's having a gas. The girls self monitor themselves & are learning social skills, reading cues & most of all how to make & keep a friend beyond the issues each of these girls have. They have fun & that's all. It's nothing about their diagnosis, illness or problems ~ it's about being young women together & having fun. The staff of this organization fight over who gets to work late Monday nights because of this group.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">The showering thing is a natural consequence. If your difficult child goes to school with-o showering her peers will let her know about it. It's a hard lesson however it may be the only way your difficult child will comply with showering in the morning. Is she washing her own sheets each morning & making her bed when she returns. Is she monitoring her liquid intake before bedtime. At difficult children age these are skills she can & should learn.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Just throwing out some ideas for you. I've lived this times 2 with kt & wm. husband & I muddled through until we got help in the form of services in our home; at that point we were able to have a basic plan of safety. Now that things have settled a bit after here I'm seeing growth & use of life skills that it's taken years to teach. I've stepped back & let kt & wm muddle their way through basic life issues ~ I stepped in for the big stuff & will continue to do so when possible.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Keep us updated on all this stuff. It will get better - really will. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 393218, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Jena, I'd put moving at the bottom of my list; gives difficult child a bit too much power. She's very aware of the time, energy & emotional drain she's causing .... sometimes our little wonders thrive in that. Saying that, I cannot remember do you have any services in your county. I'm thinking a girls group supervised by a therapist or a couple of SWs. I don't mean a touchy feely talk group ~ I'm talking a group where activities are planned & carried out. A movie night, a night of putting together a basket for an adopted family in need. Doing hair & nails & just talking as young women will do but in a somewhat controlled setting. One week a night is planning the next months activities. I ask this because kt is in the same type of group & she's having a gas. The girls self monitor themselves & are learning social skills, reading cues & most of all how to make & keep a friend beyond the issues each of these girls have. They have fun & that's all. It's nothing about their diagnosis, illness or problems ~ it's about being young women together & having fun. The staff of this organization fight over who gets to work late Monday nights because of this group. The showering thing is a natural consequence. If your difficult child goes to school with-o showering her peers will let her know about it. It's a hard lesson however it may be the only way your difficult child will comply with showering in the morning. Is she washing her own sheets each morning & making her bed when she returns. Is she monitoring her liquid intake before bedtime. At difficult children age these are skills she can & should learn. Just throwing out some ideas for you. I've lived this times 2 with kt & wm. husband & I muddled through until we got help in the form of services in our home; at that point we were able to have a basic plan of safety. Now that things have settled a bit after here I'm seeing growth & use of life skills that it's taken years to teach. I've stepped back & let kt & wm muddle their way through basic life issues ~ I stepped in for the big stuff & will continue to do so when possible. Keep us updated on all this stuff. It will get better - really will. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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