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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 229273" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>oh man. breath i can hear your upsetment and your frustration. i'd feel the same way don't worry about being harsh we aren't here to judge we're here for you. this is a rough one, by far. wow.</p><p> </p><p>All I can say at this point is what id' do i think if it were easy child, anger without a doubt, confusion sheer disgust at her lack of judgement.</p><p> </p><p>your emotions are all over the board right now, rightfully so. yet you will calm, get some major distance from her no calls right now or visits or anything. Just take some you time to help her get thru this, because at the end of the day tha'Tourette's Syndrome what your going to do to some extent.</p><p> </p><p>It is sad, yet there is a flip side to all of this. This pregnancy and soon to be baby may just create a huge need obviously and a huge wake up call to her that if she isnt' responsible she's going to hurt more than herself here.</p><p> </p><p>Yes it would be a whole lot better if this hadnt' happened, but it did and now you need to find your place with it somehow. This will get better. I know it's not what you wanted for her, or what you had hoped for. yet I speak from experience and pls. hear me on this one sometimes the biggest surprises can actually turn out to be the best ones. She's 20, not 13 or 15. She's becoming an adult, not the way youd' like her to granted but she's an adult now. This is her child and her life now. There may be a wedding who knows what theyll decide to do. </p><p> </p><p>ok i'm sharing and hopefully this will help somewhat. easy child isn't from my marriage. i became pregnant with her at 22 years old. I had just moved out on my own, similar situation having hard time with bills i did have a job though yet at the end of the day i was no where near mom material or ready. I chose to do it on my own, my parents disowned me for this for the first 6 mos. of my pregnancy it hurt me greatly. </p><p> </p><p>At the end of the day easy child made me grow up and get a grip. yes I know i had a job, yet maybe you and easy child can figure out what it is she can do to earn money now, health benefits, etc. or see what the state has to offer. here in new york we have a childcare benefits program for ppl who do not make that much, i'm not sure what your state offers.</p><p> </p><p>Point i'm trying to make is my parents got over their carp by the time I needed them to, which was great. I had a difficult pregnancy and was bed ridden for the last 3 mos of it, yes the whole thing was dramatic my mom was disgusted with me, etc. yet i managed, when push came to shove i managed. easy child taught me how to love unconditionally hence my huge huge attachment to that kid. i learned how to be a mom real quick, how to hire nanny's, make money to feed her, take good care of her, etc. i made my mistakes along the way as your easy child did, yet when she sees that child hopefully it'll all turn around. Try to have faith in that.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you are in this, it's one of my largest fears besides difficult child to be honest. I'm always afraid that easy child will pull a hey i'm prego in senior year and i'll wind up raising my grandchild. yet life is what it is.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sending you hugs, if you ever wanna pm pls feel free to do so. i just wanted to share my tale in hopes it would help you somehow see that sometimes it can turn out good.</p><p> </p><p>(((((Hugs))))) takea hot bubble bath and relax. so you can calm.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 229273, member: 4514"] oh man. breath i can hear your upsetment and your frustration. i'd feel the same way don't worry about being harsh we aren't here to judge we're here for you. this is a rough one, by far. wow. All I can say at this point is what id' do i think if it were easy child, anger without a doubt, confusion sheer disgust at her lack of judgement. your emotions are all over the board right now, rightfully so. yet you will calm, get some major distance from her no calls right now or visits or anything. Just take some you time to help her get thru this, because at the end of the day tha'Tourette's Syndrome what your going to do to some extent. It is sad, yet there is a flip side to all of this. This pregnancy and soon to be baby may just create a huge need obviously and a huge wake up call to her that if she isnt' responsible she's going to hurt more than herself here. Yes it would be a whole lot better if this hadnt' happened, but it did and now you need to find your place with it somehow. This will get better. I know it's not what you wanted for her, or what you had hoped for. yet I speak from experience and pls. hear me on this one sometimes the biggest surprises can actually turn out to be the best ones. She's 20, not 13 or 15. She's becoming an adult, not the way youd' like her to granted but she's an adult now. This is her child and her life now. There may be a wedding who knows what theyll decide to do. ok i'm sharing and hopefully this will help somewhat. easy child isn't from my marriage. i became pregnant with her at 22 years old. I had just moved out on my own, similar situation having hard time with bills i did have a job though yet at the end of the day i was no where near mom material or ready. I chose to do it on my own, my parents disowned me for this for the first 6 mos. of my pregnancy it hurt me greatly. At the end of the day easy child made me grow up and get a grip. yes I know i had a job, yet maybe you and easy child can figure out what it is she can do to earn money now, health benefits, etc. or see what the state has to offer. here in new york we have a childcare benefits program for ppl who do not make that much, i'm not sure what your state offers. Point i'm trying to make is my parents got over their carp by the time I needed them to, which was great. I had a difficult pregnancy and was bed ridden for the last 3 mos of it, yes the whole thing was dramatic my mom was disgusted with me, etc. yet i managed, when push came to shove i managed. easy child taught me how to love unconditionally hence my huge huge attachment to that kid. i learned how to be a mom real quick, how to hire nanny's, make money to feed her, take good care of her, etc. i made my mistakes along the way as your easy child did, yet when she sees that child hopefully it'll all turn around. Try to have faith in that. I'm sorry you are in this, it's one of my largest fears besides difficult child to be honest. I'm always afraid that easy child will pull a hey i'm prego in senior year and i'll wind up raising my grandchild. yet life is what it is. I'm sending you hugs, if you ever wanna pm pls feel free to do so. i just wanted to share my tale in hopes it would help you somehow see that sometimes it can turn out good. (((((Hugs))))) takea hot bubble bath and relax. so you can calm. [/QUOTE]
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