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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 459275" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There IS a problem.</p><p></p><p>I work in a day care center, and we are mandatory reporters too. On Orientation Day we had two CPS workers come out to tell us what we should and shouldn't report. The actual truth is, they can't do much unless there is proof of violence. A parent saying "I'm going to take you to the woodshed and beat you"...well, CPS can't do much about it until after the fact. However, if I heard somebody say that to a child, I'd probably call CPS anyway. But we had a question and answer session afterward and were pretty much told "verbal abuse" or "threats" don't really allow them to do anything. Now if you think he is being sexually abused, they consider that physical violence but the child has to indicate this or else somebody else has to witness it and call CPS. </p><p></p><p>I'm not making excuses for teacher/aide, but it could be why they aren't calling. Your son has to speak up and not protect his father. Does he have a therapist who he trusts and can confide in? Dad probably tells Son, "You better not tell anybody anything." And he's probably afraid. Abusive people tend to terrorize their victims into silence.</p><p></p><p>After our orientation from CPS, my head was reeling. All I could think of was how little they can do and how high the bar is set for seriously looking for abuse. A call will prompt a visit to Dad, but if Dad says everything is ok and so does Son, there is really not much they can do....</p><p></p><p>Hugz!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 459275, member: 1550"] There IS a problem. I work in a day care center, and we are mandatory reporters too. On Orientation Day we had two CPS workers come out to tell us what we should and shouldn't report. The actual truth is, they can't do much unless there is proof of violence. A parent saying "I'm going to take you to the woodshed and beat you"...well, CPS can't do much about it until after the fact. However, if I heard somebody say that to a child, I'd probably call CPS anyway. But we had a question and answer session afterward and were pretty much told "verbal abuse" or "threats" don't really allow them to do anything. Now if you think he is being sexually abused, they consider that physical violence but the child has to indicate this or else somebody else has to witness it and call CPS. I'm not making excuses for teacher/aide, but it could be why they aren't calling. Your son has to speak up and not protect his father. Does he have a therapist who he trusts and can confide in? Dad probably tells Son, "You better not tell anybody anything." And he's probably afraid. Abusive people tend to terrorize their victims into silence. After our orientation from CPS, my head was reeling. All I could think of was how little they can do and how high the bar is set for seriously looking for abuse. A call will prompt a visit to Dad, but if Dad says everything is ok and so does Son, there is really not much they can do.... Hugz!! [/QUOTE]
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