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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 759677" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>You sound like you are getting stronger. I really hope that you do have the strength to detach this time.</p><p></p><p>I think about what I went through with our son and I did finally detach 85% when he went to his last Christian based program. I had put walls up to protect myself and they were not going anywhere. I was so tired of having hope and then again having to endure the same pain over and over again. I knew I had to protect myself until <strong>HE</strong> MADE THE RIGHT DECISIONS.</p><p></p><p>I knew I had done everything in my power to guide him on the right path but he did not want to be on the right path! Even after 8 months successful in the very difficult program he was in, when he called and asked to come home early I said no. In fact, my husband/his father was the one that even told him he could come back home IF he completed the 13 month program successfully. I was trembling when he even suggested it. I was not on board with him ever coming home to be honest and I felt a lot of guilt for this.</p><p></p><p>He has been home for two years now and it hasn't always been easy but I have seen tremendous growth on his part and he is moving forward with his life and realizes he has made enough bad decisions and has to only make good decisions from now on.</p><p></p><p>He will graduate with his associates degree in IT Networking and be CISCO certified in December. I never thought I'd write or say this.</p><p></p><p>You need to step out of his drama and close the door securely. It may be for a while or it may be forever. That was the step that I took and I am sure that I did the right thing for all of us. If I did not have the strength that I did, I don't think we would have had this type of outcome. You need to build that fortress for yourself and not make your life all about your son and how he will live his life. Yes, it's hard.</p><p></p><p>I gave my son to God because it is HIS Will that will prevail in all of our lives.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong and keep praying. We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 759677, member: 15032"] You sound like you are getting stronger. I really hope that you do have the strength to detach this time. I think about what I went through with our son and I did finally detach 85% when he went to his last Christian based program. I had put walls up to protect myself and they were not going anywhere. I was so tired of having hope and then again having to endure the same pain over and over again. I knew I had to protect myself until [B]HE[/B] MADE THE RIGHT DECISIONS. I knew I had done everything in my power to guide him on the right path but he did not want to be on the right path! Even after 8 months successful in the very difficult program he was in, when he called and asked to come home early I said no. In fact, my husband/his father was the one that even told him he could come back home IF he completed the 13 month program successfully. I was trembling when he even suggested it. I was not on board with him ever coming home to be honest and I felt a lot of guilt for this. He has been home for two years now and it hasn't always been easy but I have seen tremendous growth on his part and he is moving forward with his life and realizes he has made enough bad decisions and has to only make good decisions from now on. He will graduate with his associates degree in IT Networking and be CISCO certified in December. I never thought I'd write or say this. You need to step out of his drama and close the door securely. It may be for a while or it may be forever. That was the step that I took and I am sure that I did the right thing for all of us. If I did not have the strength that I did, I don't think we would have had this type of outcome. You need to build that fortress for yourself and not make your life all about your son and how he will live his life. Yes, it's hard. I gave my son to God because it is HIS Will that will prevail in all of our lives. Stay strong and keep praying. We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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