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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759682" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Laura, I am sorry. You sound as if you are much stronger now. I was once a wreck every time my kid fell apart or was mean to me. Nar Anon and therapy helped me.</p><p></p><p>Laura, I don't judge you at all. I would have done this once. But now...today...NarAnon taught me that my business ends at the tip of my.nose. This has helped me so much. I think it's best for us and for them not to get involved in their relationships. Yes, I did it once but it just made Kay worse and think her friends betrayed her. So she would punish us all. Now I feel it was not my business to talk to her people and it never helped her or me. From where I stand.now I don't get involved with her friends or even try to know who they are.</p><p></p><p>I have.not spoken to Kay for two years. Her choice. But she also partly made this choice because we set boundaries. She can't.ge rude.or ask for.money. Maybe, knowing that The Bank of Mom and Dad is closed,bshe.no longer believes we are of use to her. As hard as that is for us, that is all we feel we mean to her. She never contacted us just to check on.our welfare. She always was only nice to us to get a favor. Without getting favors from us, she.no longer wants us around.</p><p></p><p>Truth be told, our lives are easier without.het chronic drama and demands for help/money. She.did get on Social Security and.now has a food card. So does her.husband. I think that's enough for them.</p><p></p><p>I used to talk to her.husbands parents but we don't do that now. They are also cut off and know little. And it is hurtful to talk about it with all of us crying together.</p><p></p><p>Sorry again for rambling. Don't go by me. Do what you think is right. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="💓" title="Beating heart :heartbeat:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f493.png" data-shortname=":heartbeat:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759682, member: 23706"] Laura, I am sorry. You sound as if you are much stronger now. I was once a wreck every time my kid fell apart or was mean to me. Nar Anon and therapy helped me. Laura, I don't judge you at all. I would have done this once. But now...today...NarAnon taught me that my business ends at the tip of my.nose. This has helped me so much. I think it's best for us and for them not to get involved in their relationships. Yes, I did it once but it just made Kay worse and think her friends betrayed her. So she would punish us all. Now I feel it was not my business to talk to her people and it never helped her or me. From where I stand.now I don't get involved with her friends or even try to know who they are. I have.not spoken to Kay for two years. Her choice. But she also partly made this choice because we set boundaries. She can't.ge rude.or ask for.money. Maybe, knowing that The Bank of Mom and Dad is closed,bshe.no longer believes we are of use to her. As hard as that is for us, that is all we feel we mean to her. She never contacted us just to check on.our welfare. She always was only nice to us to get a favor. Without getting favors from us, she.no longer wants us around. Truth be told, our lives are easier without.het chronic drama and demands for help/money. She.did get on Social Security and.now has a food card. So does her.husband. I think that's enough for them. I used to talk to her.husbands parents but we don't do that now. They are also cut off and know little. And it is hurtful to talk about it with all of us crying together. Sorry again for rambling. Don't go by me. Do what you think is right. 💓 [/QUOTE]
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