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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 415986" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I agree with the not giving everything back at once.</p><p> </p><p>I've also started really working on natural consequences. This weekend was great for that. Jett was told that if he continued to leave the light on when he left the computer room, he would lose electricity privileges for that room (vague). Next time, he was told "the <em>next time </em>you leave the light on"... And what do you know, an hour later? I turned off the computer, turned off the light, and <em>locked the computer room door</em>. He runs down there - and WHAM. No entrance. I told him he had lost his electricity privileges. (Snicker... It worked!)</p><p> </p><p>Onyxx, yesterday - got nasty with husband when he asked her what kind of soda she wanted. He warned her about her attitude. Then she threw a FIT in public because we were leaving. husband calmly relieved her of cell phone and mp3 player and told her when she began listening, she would get the mp3 player, and when she learned to talk to people respectfully, she would get the cell phone. (If I had tried that? I'd be black and blue.)</p><p> </p><p>I mention these two incidents because I've learned that if the consequences follow the infractions - they work better AND are easier to enforce. But, that being said - your son needs to earn things back, but at the beginning, you have to find a way to reward - an hour of good behavior. A day. A week. because 3 days just might be too long for him, to begin with.</p><p> </p><p>{{{{{HUGS}}}}} I know how you feel...</p><p> </p><p>Oh yeah - homework? Is busy work. Almost all of the time, it's just another way to promote rote repetition. I'd discuss this with the school - at least temporarily declaring a moratorium.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 415986, member: 6705"] I agree with the not giving everything back at once. I've also started really working on natural consequences. This weekend was great for that. Jett was told that if he continued to leave the light on when he left the computer room, he would lose electricity privileges for that room (vague). Next time, he was told "the [I]next time [/I]you leave the light on"... And what do you know, an hour later? I turned off the computer, turned off the light, and [I]locked the computer room door[/I]. He runs down there - and WHAM. No entrance. I told him he had lost his electricity privileges. (Snicker... It worked!) Onyxx, yesterday - got nasty with husband when he asked her what kind of soda she wanted. He warned her about her attitude. Then she threw a FIT in public because we were leaving. husband calmly relieved her of cell phone and mp3 player and told her when she began listening, she would get the mp3 player, and when she learned to talk to people respectfully, she would get the cell phone. (If I had tried that? I'd be black and blue.) I mention these two incidents because I've learned that if the consequences follow the infractions - they work better AND are easier to enforce. But, that being said - your son needs to earn things back, but at the beginning, you have to find a way to reward - an hour of good behavior. A day. A week. because 3 days just might be too long for him, to begin with. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} I know how you feel... Oh yeah - homework? Is busy work. Almost all of the time, it's just another way to promote rote repetition. I'd discuss this with the school - at least temporarily declaring a moratorium. [/QUOTE]
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