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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 399534" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! This is a great place for support, strength and ideas. </p><p></p><p>If your son has not had a full evaluation done by a neuropsychologist, I would push for one. The sexual behavior could be from a mood disorder or from puberty hitting and not knowing how to handle the hormones. in my opinion this could be an autistic spectrum disorder. Most kids with problems are developmentally about 2/3 of their chronological age. So for your 13 yo to be about the level of a 9yo is close to that - and terribly frustrating for many parents. Add in your child's lower IQ score and he could appear even younger than 9. When you take the hormones of a 13yo boy (a lot of boys seem to seek out things like Playboy at that age - I know my bro did and most of the boys in our neighborhood did between ages 11 and 13) and you pair that with his lower developmental age and his lack of social skills and he may not actually know that it is wrong to behave in sexual ways in public or with others. It is a tough situation to explain, but an important one. Often the rules for this kind of thing must be explained very clearly because otherwise our kids just won't grasp them, or be able to act upon those rules. At his age he is at risk if someone thinks he is acting out sexually, esp if he is with a younger child.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if he has been violent, but it may be why your younger child is afraid of him. My son was 12 when he spent 4 mos in a psychiatric hospital because I found him strangling his little sister in the middle of the night. He had been torturing her (literally - NOT a figure of speech) for a long time but she hid it from us because she was afraid he would kill their younger brother if she told (he threatened this). She also didn't think we actually COULD stop him. They both learned that we not only could, we WOULD - to the point that he was in a locked facility within 72 hours of me finding out. </p><p></p><p>There CAN be a better future. It won't be all roses and perfection, but our kids CAN learn to make other choices. in my opinion haldol is NOT the best medication choice for many of our kids. If he has a mood disorder he needs to be on a mood stabilizer - and possibly on two of them. OFten antipsychotics like haldol are also needed, but they usually don't treat the mood disorders by themselves. The sexual behavior can be part of having a mood disorder also - and mood stabilizers can help greatly with that. If you go to the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation you will find a medication protocol that is very useful - it can be used to help make medication decisions. For some reason many psychiatrists ignore this protocol even though it is recognized by the board of pediatrician psychiatrists and adult psychiatrists. </p><p></p><p>As for school issues, the Special Education section of this board is incredibly helpful - post over there and they can help you get the accommodations your son needs for his education AND they can help you protect his legal rights.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you found us, but very sorry you needed to. Welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 399534, member: 1233"] Welcome! This is a great place for support, strength and ideas. If your son has not had a full evaluation done by a neuropsychologist, I would push for one. The sexual behavior could be from a mood disorder or from puberty hitting and not knowing how to handle the hormones. in my opinion this could be an autistic spectrum disorder. Most kids with problems are developmentally about 2/3 of their chronological age. So for your 13 yo to be about the level of a 9yo is close to that - and terribly frustrating for many parents. Add in your child's lower IQ score and he could appear even younger than 9. When you take the hormones of a 13yo boy (a lot of boys seem to seek out things like Playboy at that age - I know my bro did and most of the boys in our neighborhood did between ages 11 and 13) and you pair that with his lower developmental age and his lack of social skills and he may not actually know that it is wrong to behave in sexual ways in public or with others. It is a tough situation to explain, but an important one. Often the rules for this kind of thing must be explained very clearly because otherwise our kids just won't grasp them, or be able to act upon those rules. At his age he is at risk if someone thinks he is acting out sexually, esp if he is with a younger child. I don't know if he has been violent, but it may be why your younger child is afraid of him. My son was 12 when he spent 4 mos in a psychiatric hospital because I found him strangling his little sister in the middle of the night. He had been torturing her (literally - NOT a figure of speech) for a long time but she hid it from us because she was afraid he would kill their younger brother if she told (he threatened this). She also didn't think we actually COULD stop him. They both learned that we not only could, we WOULD - to the point that he was in a locked facility within 72 hours of me finding out. There CAN be a better future. It won't be all roses and perfection, but our kids CAN learn to make other choices. in my opinion haldol is NOT the best medication choice for many of our kids. If he has a mood disorder he needs to be on a mood stabilizer - and possibly on two of them. OFten antipsychotics like haldol are also needed, but they usually don't treat the mood disorders by themselves. The sexual behavior can be part of having a mood disorder also - and mood stabilizers can help greatly with that. If you go to the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation you will find a medication protocol that is very useful - it can be used to help make medication decisions. For some reason many psychiatrists ignore this protocol even though it is recognized by the board of pediatrician psychiatrists and adult psychiatrists. As for school issues, the Special Education section of this board is incredibly helpful - post over there and they can help you get the accommodations your son needs for his education AND they can help you protect his legal rights. I am glad you found us, but very sorry you needed to. Welcome! [/QUOTE]
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